What does it tell you if . . . .

[mollykins]

. . . An ex partner of someone in your family still gets invited to weddings etc, even though they're now nothing to do with your family?

[mollykins]

All three of the kids are grown up and live with their families.

[ummmm]

She's still their Mother...

Why does it bother you?

[sherrardk]

I'd better stop talking to my step-dad then seeing as my mother is dead.

[mollykins]

That's different sherrard, you grew up with him (I assume), it isn't like you're getting married and there's a random woman who used to be married to you mums cousin, who you must invite. (which is how distant we are talking about for two of the weddings in question).

[Eve]

Blood isn't everything Molly! They have 3 children, adopted or not, the child is still theirs.

I don't see why she shouldn't be invited. My aunt left my uncle many many years ago, should I now have nothing more to do with her as she isn't related to me by blood or, anymore, by marriage. She is and always will be my aunt.

People move on but can be perfectly adult enough to maintain good friendships over and above breakups. I got on well with my ex's ex wife. It was all very amicable, we went out for dinner together with her and her new partner, swapped Christmas and birthday cards etc... and I never had a problem with them meeting up for lunch to catch up.

Made things a lot easier for a lot of mutual friends and I never had a problem with it, never needed to. They were together for a long time and I respected that, I was never given a reason to not mind.

[sherrardk]

To be honest, with an attitude like yours I am more surprised that you get invited.

[ummmm]

How can you call her a random woman. She's not random....she was married to a member of your family and had 3 kids...

Just a crazy thought - is there any chance that she is well liked?

[ChuckFickens]

As a adoptee it's nice to read that I'm only kinda part of the family that adopted me.

[ummmm]

Shocking isn't she Chuck....??!

[mollykins]

Someone asked how many children they had, they (well the woman) gave birth to 2, but they adopted another, which is different, sorry if i offended you chuck.

[mollykins]

And i didn't say she was kinda part of the family, I said that they kinda had three children, plus she was adopted when she was about 14 or 15.

[boxtops]

The law said they have three children, whether she gave birth to them or not! and I am much better friends with the family of my ex now that I have nothing to do with him. It's perfectly normal in the real world.

[ChuckFickens]

You've not offended me, molly (I'm far thicker skinned than that)

But you really should not refer to adopted children any differently to birth children as you will very likely offend other people.

[Invictas]

molly,
Going by your posts you seem to come from one sure dysfunctional family,or is it just your perception that is at fault.
Human beings are complex,often irrational and never straightforward people.
Not putting you down (agewise) but when you become completely adult you may view these fallings out and dischords from a different point of view?

[schiehallion]

I was invited to my ex wifes wedding. we get on better now than when we were married.

[sandyRoe]

They know where all the bodies are buried?

[pastafreak]

molly-consider yourself lucky to be part of a family that still still sends invites to someone who is 'now nothing to do with them'.
I sure wish my ex's family treated me that way. Instead,I-like most ex's-got dropped like a hot potato. Sadly-it's very much like loosing a part of your 'family'....and it is often the children who suffer when their parent is cast aside. At least your relatives seem to be making sure that those kids,AND the mum,are still included in family functions.

[Mctavish]

I don't think I have ever come across such a weird and dysfunctional family.

[wiggal]

Dont worry, we were trying to figure out over the weekend why my fiancees ex took their 2 kids to visit my fiancees cousin over
Still have not quite got there yet!