Really annoying

[tamborine]

that females cry so easily when males dont. Blubbering over car-parking/insults/problems/difficulties etc. I get so mad that I can't argue without a bluddy tissue !

[rowanwitch]

Conditioning....little girls get away with it so it becomes a response to stress/anger etc.. you can teach yourself not to do it with distraction and assertiveness work its partly because it is acceptable for women to be upset but not seen as 'feminine' to get angry in a more direct way... so we learn not to say I am really angry and we don't lose our temper we just leak water instead....

[China Doll]

I always cry when I've lost my temper.... not because I feel particularly weepy, I'm just frustrated. I'm more of a swearer when it comes to most issues.

[cazzz1975]

crying impedes our ability to problem solve, you have to think logically and sensibly without the waterworks.

[boxtops]

I know blokes who cry, I don't think it's a female prerogative. I can't say I've ever wept over car parking - having a row, yes!

[LoftyLottie]

I rarely cry and certainly have never cried at work or out in public. If I do cry it's only at home and usually when I am alone (or out of frustration when Mr LL and I have an argument)

Sometimes I wish I could cry more easily.

I never cried much as a child either apparently and funnily enough neither did my son when he was little.

I just bottle things up and suffer from anxiety probably because of it.

[LoftyLottie]

I must admit too that seeing other women crying in the work place really aggravates me. I would never ever resort to tears at work if I was upset.

[society]

China you've always come across as one who'd say "shut to fcuk up and get out of my eyesight" never one who'd cry easily.

[B00]

I'm terrible at crying, have been since having Mini Boo ber 5 years ago.

Sad songs, films even soppy TV adverts will reduce me to a blubbering wreak.

And like CD, I'll cry when I really lose my temper, think that's more a frustration type of thing though.

[andy-hughes]

I think that even now, in our 'enlightened' times, there is still a hangover to the days when 'big boys don't cry' - which leaves a lot of men feeling repressed and unable to express emotion, not only by crying, but just by reacting in any way at all.

As the age old saying goes - women talk to each other - men tell jokes.

I believe that crying is actually really good for you, and should not be repressed.

When i worked as a Samaritan, I would always answer the inevitable "I'm sorry ..." response when someone cried in front of me, by saying that you should not be sorry, it is good for youj.

I think an atmosphere where genuine emotion is acceptable (as opposed to the X-Factor blub-fests) wouold be a better environment for all of us.

[ummmm]

I think men crying is actually really manly. To me it shows confidence.

[China Doll]

I'm not generally likely to say something like that to complete strangers sb... well maybe scientologists!

I just get frustrated when I'm angry which results in tears but I'm not really a crier. I'd certainly happily tell someone where to go who was rude to me first :c)

[zita-green]

My dad used to say, 'when a woman is hurt, she cries and talks to friends. When a man is hurt, he stalks into his cave and licks his wounds alone.'

[Sqad]

andy

<<<I believe that crying is actually really good for you, and should not be repressed. <<<

Does anyone else?

I NEVER cry in public, always go into me study.

I cry in the following situations¨:

Watching the surviving Lancaster Bombers returning to Scampton after blasting the Dams if the Ruhr valley.

The fleet returning to Scarpa Flow after sinking the German Battleship Bismarck

Reading the replies in Body and Soul.

[mccfluff]

i cry when i'm angry or i want to get my own way

[ethandron]

some people are easy criers and some aren't. me and my late sister were completely different - she rarely cried, and i cry at the drop of a hat. i believe that some people are just more emotional. i never 'use' tears in any situation, can't and wouldn't make myself cry, but the oddest thing will set me off - hearing a choir, holding my face up to the sun.
my sister was accused of being a 'cold' person by some, but i knew she was the complete opposite, she just didn't show much emotion.

[andy-hughes]

Sqad - my point is that crying - the relesase of emotion - is what is good for you.

We as a culture are brought up to believe that crying in front of someone embarasses them - which I think is a perception we should try and avoid.

It's the crying that is important - the venue and company are secondary.

Because of the all-pervading influence of reality shows, we may even swing too far the other way, when people feel they can cry at the least sign of a little stress or pressure, which again, negates the point of the exercise.

My experiendce, direct and indirect. has taught me that repressing the need to cry is not a good thing.

[anneasquith]

a good cry doesnt do anyone any harm, in fact its a great release of emotions , and can be very theraputic.

[rowanwitch]

Redman has been known to get teary eyed and he is very much a real old fashioned sort of man I love that soft emotional side to him..and I cry easily too the biggest bill in our home will be for tissues ...he'll kill me for this...

[lumination]

i only get upset if i know he is getting upset. part from that, i just get plain mad lol

[Sqad]

andy...yes...that is what 99% of people, including some doctors, say, but if you check on the web, these "doctors " have been quoted in magazines that I have never heard of e.g Helium....but I cannot find ant studies done by reputable doctors and published in reputable journals e.g Brit Journal of Psychiatry, B. M J or Lancet.
Perhaps I have not looked diligently enough or you may have the details of reputable studies.

So easy for one "expert" in a magazine to make a statement which is then passed on until enough people regard it as fact.