Splitting up with kids involved

[angel21]

I know its a lot harder in some ways but from the point of view of knowing you will see your ex again does that make it easier? Or would you much rather not have to keep in touch and never want to see them again.

[sn�gs]

I'm not real either... I'm a 27 stone fisherman from Grimsby with a penchant for rubber...

[angel21]

I don't even get why he thinks I'm fake.

Yes I am not happy with my job
Yes I think my colleague tries to upset me on purpose by talking about babies
Yes I had an abortion
Yes I can't get over it
Yes I am not particularly happy living in a shared house
Yes I have no friends
Yes I can't get over my ex
Yes I can also talk about shoes
Yes I am intelligent
Yes I don't always appear that way

But fake no! I know its hard to believe someone can have my life but its my life and thats how it is.

[jackthehat]

You do give the impression that you are enjoying wallowing in all the drama of your relationship.
You have treated us to regular updates of the ins and outs of this �grand passion�; which it may appear to be from the inside. However, from the outside it is a pretty mundane set of circumstances.
You are young and to continue to be fixated by this �past� relationship smacks both of a wilfull determination to ignore the helpful and sound advice you have received on this forum, and a decision to maintain your position as the heroine in your own thwarted love story.

[angel21]

The technical dept has not deleted me yet.

Believe it or not!

[Rosetta]

Angel you do seem to have a lot of issues. Have you thought about some sort of voluntary work so you could get your problems into some sort of perspective?

[angel21]

Yes I suppose from the outside looking in it does seem a pretty mundane set of circumstances.

But you're right on the inside it doesn't.

[rinkins]

Do what vibra says angel and list some good things...x

[jackthehat]

And you are determined not to listen to anyone who isn't stroking your hand and 'there there-ing' you.

Rosetta makes a good suggestion. Perhaps if you were less focused on 'you' you might find there are some improvements in your life.

[rinkins]

I think that CBT therapy we talked about would help you

[angel21]

I am kind
I have a good sense of humour
I have a lot of love to give
I am healthy
I am intelligent
I am free to do what I want with nothing to hold me down
I have an income
I have a roof over my head
I have a car
There are nice people out there I just need to find them

[B00]

As Jack says angel, you do seem to enjoy wallowing in your quite frankly childish woes.

Seriously girl, there's far more in life to worry yourself over, and believe me, none of the things you've listed are one of them. Be grateful you have your health etc.

As for Legend, don't get into it with him, he'll always have the last word, so no point even getting into any spats with him. Just agree with him, and move on.

[rinkins]

Now write them down and keep them in your bag with you x Every time you think of a bad thing, look at your list and focus on one of them instead.

[angel21]

CBT is rubbish

I'll be fine when I meet some people

When I do some stuff that actually means I have something interesting to talk about

I'm am listening.

I have done volunteering, I have applied for several part time evening jobs, I have been to the gym, I have done an evening course.....