when the honeymoon period ends

[lpink]

hi ive been married for 5 years and untill recently my husband and i have had a verry good sex life suddenly he doesent seem at all interested i am a highly sexual person and am finding it hard to go without. Just before this sudden lack of interest from him he dissapeared for hours and would not answer his phone (most unlike him) i think he has strayed as he has done so in all his previous relationships ,i have tried to talk but he finds a way to avoid having the conversation what do you think am a wrong to think this or do i have good reason?

[Cockney_si]

Did you not think about this mans tendency to stray before marrying him? Sorry to say but most blokes rarely change and if they are tempted once they may well be tempted again.

You need to sit down like adults and talk about what the real issues are here, not just demanding sex every time, poor bloke is probably exhausted !

[PinkFizz]

It depends on how much you love this man really and if you are prepared to give an ultimatum and stick with it. NOt a sex ultimatum but one about talking. Tell him nicely, one eve over a glass of wine, just what you have told us - that he has changed, he doesn't answer his phone, sex has dwindles, and ask what is wrong. If he says there is nothing then stick to your guns and say there must be an explanation. If he then gets the hump(which I suspect he will) then ask how he would feel if you had changed so much. Then give an ultimatum you are prepareed to go through with - whether it be you don't want to speak to him at all till he tells you whats troubling you, or you want a few days break - whatever you feel is appropriate. xx

[vehelpfulguy]

I am also amazed that with his previous history of straying your thought he would not stray with you.

I am afraid some men find the "chase" very exciting and even if good sex is there for him (in your case) he would rather go out an find another conquest and do his ego some good.

Men like this NEVER change, they constantly need their ego massaging (oh er) to prove they have still got the knack of pulling the ladies.

Not sure where that leaves you though.

Married to a man who would rather go out and find a new conquest when he has a willing partner at home.

[lpink]

just want to say thanks i will take your advise all of you not sure what will happen but if i dont try i will never know mabe i will give him a dose of his own medecine and make him think thanks

[laurencelolo]

Sorry Ipink time to wake up snap out!
You can sense that something is not right there so follow up because if you allows this type of behaviour early in your marriage it is crap already for you.
Your men is not straight with you find out why! because for years you will wonder , you too can be in denial too!
crunch time may be but i have always said in my 23 years of marriage and i have seen it all that it is a test for your partnership and you will build your marriage on that.
Building together the strong foundation of marriage: communication and trust.