eviction

[vonda]

Can I give my 19 year old written notice to leave my house, following unacceptable behavior and previous verbal warnings?

[naz_nomad]

No need ... just throw him out physically...

[Ethel]

naz_nomad is correct.

You can just force him to leave.

[dot.hawkes]

I felt the same way when my son was 19, it was terrible, i can't go into it but many people told me to ring the police, get him out, disown him,

I did not take their advice as i had promised my Mum i would never split up the family no matter what. despite it all i kept my word to her, don't know how I did it, but i think it is like childbirth, you forget the pain in time.

My son is 25 on Sunday and still can be hard work, but he is an adult now, with a child of his own, and i am proud of him. Nothing your child can have done could exceed my son's behavior, but I put up with people losing patience with me and calling me soft, and now i have my son back and we are solid, i thank my late mother for her advice,

[NORMANTHEDOG]

dot,i dident know you were that old,anyhow totally agree with you,families should be together,not split apart.

[laurence2]

vonda, the only NOTICE you have to give your 19 year old is, you,ve got 10 minutes to pack your bag, you can actually call the police if need be to have him/her removed, is it the right thing your doing, or are you near to breaking point

[gloworm]

just with regard to laurence2's answer the police can only assist you in removing him, unless he's creating a breach of the peace or committing a another offence.

the law states that you can physically remove him (using reasonable force) and if you are unable to do this the police may act on your behalf after you've informed your son.

It is your house and it is on your say who lives there, son or not.

[WendyS]

Yes, he's legally an adult now and you no longer have any statutory obligation to keep him.
If his behaviour is totally intolerable, why not give him written notice of the behaviour changes you expect from him and the timescale in which you want to see an improvement. Tell him this is non-negotiable.
If the improvement doesn't happen, pack his things when he's out of the house and leave the suitcase on the front door. And if you have a chain on the door, use it so that if he has a key he can't get back in. (or get the lock changed).
Even if you have no long term intention of excluding him, maybe the actual shock of seeing his belongings on the doorstep will get the message across that you've had enough.

[vonda]

Thanks, Wendy5, it's great to hear something supportive, and to know we are not alone.