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Is My Wife Having An Affair?
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My wife decided to play match maker with her work mate (male) and our school friend, i thought it was a nice idea and didn't think anything more of it. I found out since that they have been texting each other every day, she set the date up and it went well but they too have developed a friendship. When i found out that they were sending messages to each other every day 6/7am right through until 11/12pm i got a little upset. I don't know this work mate nor have never met him. My wife assures me she loves me and isn't having an affair but she refuses to place any boundies. I don't like it and asked he behaves like a normal friend and keep to solically acceptable times, i don't want to tell her who she can and can't be friends with but it just feels wierd that a man i don't know is messaging my wife every day. I asked he stop whilst we were on holiday and she didn't stop him, so when a message came in at 11.30pm i got cross and replied on her phone demanding he stop. my wife got mad with me for ruining her solical life. the messages calmed down for a few weeks but its started again, now my wife has turned her phone onto silent or she will hide it thinking i won't notice. I've read a few messages when she's gone to bed and it is just friendly chat.. he tries to flirt but i can see she ignores it. My wife goes to the gym with her mother every friday whilst i stay home with the children the last message is on about him joining the same gym. I don't want to fall out with my wife, i feel my paranoia could be making things worse but i just want it to stop. should i be this worried?
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"spath - You have a peculiar notion of what it means to be married.
You both enter into a contract 'freely' to be 'joined in marriage', you don't agree to surrender all autonomy nor conduct yourself solely to the wishes/whims of your spouse."
I'm sure each and every marriage has it's own ways of working. There is no blue print. So of course, you are right, but you're also wrong.
We don't know the ins and outs of ploppys marriage.
You both enter into a contract 'freely' to be 'joined in marriage', you don't agree to surrender all autonomy nor conduct yourself solely to the wishes/whims of your spouse."
I'm sure each and every marriage has it's own ways of working. There is no blue print. So of course, you are right, but you're also wrong.
We don't know the ins and outs of ploppys marriage.
If someone said to me "who's girl is that" referring to my girlfriend... I'd say mine, proudly. I'm sure she'd do the same if someone ask'd who's boyfriend that was.
We're proud to have eachother for our own.
That is a sense of ownership...
That doesn't mean she does everything i say and ask her to do. It doesn't mean i own her like a pet dog on a leash.
It does mean we are each others, equally.
It's a sense of belonging
You're just hysterical thinking i'm talking about the 20's or some crap.
You argue because you're an emotional cannon ball. We're not even arguing, you're just not understanding and getting rife about it.
We're proud to have eachother for our own.
That is a sense of ownership...
That doesn't mean she does everything i say and ask her to do. It doesn't mean i own her like a pet dog on a leash.
It does mean we are each others, equally.
It's a sense of belonging
You're just hysterical thinking i'm talking about the 20's or some crap.
You argue because you're an emotional cannon ball. We're not even arguing, you're just not understanding and getting rife about it.
