How Would You Feel??

[jd_1984]

A couple plan to wed abroad as part of a 2 week holiday in the carribean with family.
The bride is very excited and is looking forward to her dream day (as many women tend to).
Now, the groom's dad has asked whether the couple mind if he renews his vows to grooms mother at some point during the 2 weeks in the resort. He wants to suprise her on a day seperate to the wedding day.
Groom is impartial but slightly on the side of "that is a really nice idea".
Bride is totally against as it is "our wedding and the guests will be talking more about the romantic gesture by grooms dad"!!

What say you lot??

Should groom politely inform dad that not a good idea? Surely that is his only way of having a harmonious wedding??

[LoftyLottie]

By saying I haven't been a bride, I meant I haven't gone through the big Wedding Day lark - but I am married.

[craft1948]

I would shoot the father..............

[LoftyLottie]

He, he Bridezillas!!

[chrissa1]

Just discussed this my daughter. We both agree with the bride. It Is Her day.

[LoftyLottie]

But no-one is taking her day away from her. It will be on another day and no-one will know about it until the day it happens except for the bride and groom and the grooms Dad.

[emmie]

the young couple should have their day...

[pixie373]

That is really selfish of the father. He's had his turn. Let the couple have theirs.

[elliemay1]

Don't know why he feels the need to renew his vows. How long have they been married? I think the groom should support the bride. Also it would make it look as if the bride's father wasn't as romantic!

[friedgreentomato]

Just a couple of points

I have had a renewal so to those that have said it is a sh8te idea - Thank you!!

Whilst I agree that it seems a bit selfish of the bride I can see it from both sides, perhaps they can come to a compromise, have the renewal on the last full day of the holiday so it finishes on a high point and not with everyone feeling sad about going home!

[chrissa1]

Yes, LL but when all the photos come through of the wedding, people will say things like...."oh, that was the time your FIL renewed his vows, wasn't it? What a lovely thing to do."

Not a good thing.

[LoftyLottie]

Whoops sorry Fried Green. But we all have our own opinions ;o) I don't like big showy weddings either. I really should stay away from threads like this!!

To me eloping is romantic, ;o)

[sara3]

I wouldn't mind (I think!) but I understand that the couple should remain the centre of attention.

father-in-law should make his grand gesture another time.

[Psybbo]

I think Helen has the best idea, we don't know what problems the father and mother have weathered and if it's a surprise on the last day, that would be fine

[LoftyLottie]

I never had any wedding photos Chrissa. Just a few snapshops I didn't know were being taken!!

[chrissa1]

That's so sad Lofty. :(

[LoftyLottie]

So have the couple got to remain the centre of attention for the whole two weeks. I seriously don't understand why.

I'm off...............

[LoftyLottie]

Not sad Chrissa. It was what we wanted. Marriage means a lot to me, weddings, as such do not.

[emmie]

i don't understand why anyone takes the outlaws with them on their wedding, you can see them any time. the good thing about honeymoons, is you are on your own....

[LoftyLottie]

I was thinking that Em.

Not that I had a honeymoon!!

[elliemay1]

I still maintain that it would make little of the bride's dad. Her Mum might be a bit jealous and it could lead to hurt feelings. The bride is probably thinking this way too.