personal property

[ladyjules]

My daughter moved in with a friend of hers a few months ago. They have since fallen out & my daughter has moved back home. When she left she couldn't move all her stuff out in one go & so left some behind to pick up later. My daughter's boyfriend went to collect her stuff & to hand back the friend's key (my daughter chose not to go with him as she knew she would end up rowing with the ex-friend & she didn't want that) Fair enough - but the friend said my daughter could only have half of her stuff back & that she had to go & pick the rest up. For reasons I've already explained my daughter didn't want to do that & she was trying to make alternative arrangements to get the rest of her stuff collected. Anyway now it turns out that the ex-friend has put my daughter's possessions out with her rubbish & it was all taken away this week. I am livid, as far as I'm concerned she had no right to do this. I went to see her today, not wanting a row, but I just wanted to point out that there was no need to do that & that actually it was me ( who until now has had no issues with the friend) that paid for all those clothes & books & probably me who will have to replace them & did she really think that was fair?! Sorry to go on, I just feel the way she has behaved was completely unacceptable & does anyone know if we can take this further? Thanks for bearing with me.

[Eve]

What did she lose, personal things, anything of value?

I know losing anything is awful but trying to establish if there's any claim there if anything expensive was gotten rid that she can prove value (eg receipts) for a small claims action.

Has she definitely put it in the rubbish or could she be saying that to wind your daughter up?

If that may be the case or in any event, you could ring your local police station and ask for their advice but criminal is not my thing so don't know what their reaction may be.

She won't get her stuff back if it's been taken so however hard it may be it's gone and there may be little she can do.

May be something she just has to put down to experience and move on from.

[Eve]

Just another thought, how long was it between the ex friend asking your daughter to collect the remaining possessions herself and they being thrown out?

[ladyjules]

Hi Jenna

Thanks for your reply. It was about 10 days - 2 weeks. If it was months & months I probably wouldn't be so angry. The friend has definitely thrown my daughter's things out & has absolutely no remorse. There were quite a few personal, sentimental items & I know my daughter is hurting over these.

[jkkerr]

Sue the bitch. You are correct, she had no right to throw it away - in particular as your daughter's boyfriend tried to collect.

At the very least she would have had to contact your daughter and give a reasonable time limit on moving her things.

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jkkerr / ... had the right advise here .... ladyjules ..

[ladyjules]

Thanks. I'd like an apology from the "friend" but not much chance of that! I'd just like to make things right for my daughter, but I guess that's the joys of being a parent. I do appreciate all your replies & thanks for not making me feel like I'm over-reacting. I know we'll never recover my daughter's things, but I'm not going to let this drop. Thanks again