Letting people down...

[Bluestone]

I have a friend coming round tonight. Someone I have recently met, not a lifelong friend.
However, I have started to feel a bit 'dodgy' over the past hour or so. My temperature seems to be quite high, well my face is burning up anyway, and my head is thumping.
I've just taken some Ibuprofen so they will probably kick in soon.

It's 4pm now and they're arriving at 7. I've recently had a text to say they are "really looking forward to tonight", so I feel a bit stuck. I know they've changed their plans around especially - which makes it worse.

If you felt like you were coming down with something, would you cancel with 3 hours notice or just get a grip, grin and bear it?

[China Doll]

Grin and bear it if I knew they had already changed plans especially to see me. Chances are they'll be able to tell you're not well anyway so might cut short evening. The only time I've ever said I'm too ill to go out/see some someone was when I had tonsilitis.

[Bluestone]

Yeah, I suppose you're right. A bit of a cold is not really a good enough reason to let someone down with such short notice.

[Maydup]

Yep I'd take some paracetamol at 6pm having taken the Ibupofen at 4, and grin and bear it. It could be the anxiety of all the preparations giving you a headache and nothing too serious.

[2sp_]

I would grin and bear it, but try not to make it a late night.

Hope you feel better soon.

[bookbinder]

I agree with China Doll. If you cancel at 3 hours' notice, and say that you're not feeling well, the visitor might think "Oh, yes, that's cold feet, and Bluestone's changed their mind. And after I've changed my plans, too!" Whereas if you let the visitor see that you're not well, that would be better received.

[China Doll]

Yeah... ibru should kick in fairly soon too and that'll help :c) I'd have to have tonsilitis or flu or have my head over the toilet to cancel with 3 hours notice a person who changed their plans to see me... most illnesses would not make me suffer as much as the guilt of doing it!

[Bluestone]

Yeah, you're all right. I will get off my butt and go and make myself presentable.
I am being a bit of a miserable wuss, I know.

Thanks :-)

[Maydup]

No don't tell them, they'll feel unwelcome. I hope you feel better soon - have a good evening.

[joko]

it depends why theyre coming too - if its just a cuppa and a chat, it can wait, but if its a sort of proper occasion type thing, then thats harder... especially if theyve changed a lot of other plans at your behest and if theyre coming a long way.
also depends on how often you see them... if you see them weekly anyway i doubt theyd mind, but if its rare catch up then they may feel you are fobbing them off...

i would grin and bear it, but let them know you feel a bit unwell so they dont take your 'off colour-ness' as you being unwelcoming.

[Mick-Talbot]

Start getting pissed now, you will feel great in 2 hours but feel like Sugar in the morning.....but job done!

[Bluestone]

All turned out well in the end. I feel alright now. Friend has popped out to get some more wine..... although they've been gone a while???

[Bluestone]

Well that's what I'm wondering! Maybe they've done a runner. Knew I should have put some make-up on, but I wanted to look 'ill'! lol
I'll give it ten minutes, then I'll phone. The weather is pretty bad out there! :-/

[Bluestone]

Lol. No, they walked!!

[Bluestone]

It's ok, just got a text. He's walked (in the hammering down rain) to the nearest Tescos, which is quite a trek, as the local shop was closed.
Sent a cab for them... and now I feel awful!
Right. Best be off :-)

[Bluestone]

Wrote that before I saw your reply. They must be absolutely soaked through!! :(
They're not from round here, so I've called a taxi to pick up and bring back here... like a lost puppy. lol.
Thanks for chatting :-)