how does one deal/cope with suicide

[Zhukov]

Following on from an incredibly thoughtless/crass remark by an ABer,who obviously had never been touched by the heartbreaking tragedy of a Suicide.

Friend of mine"s Brother sadly decided to end it all,by leaping in front of a Train.He was a very intelligent young man,with a bright future in store.

It was 15 or so years ago,and is not talked about often,outside the family.My friend is lovely,but on the few times I"ve seen her talk of her Brother,she becomes extremely distraught,sad and very angry with him.

Can there be many worse events,to befall a family?

[Sir Alec]

People who commit suicide are not selfish as some would say, often they are just very depressed people who just cannot see another way out.
For people who have never encountered depression it is a very difficult thing to understand. When I felt suicidal, my parents and sister were very cruel to me.
You cant 'snap out of it', and 'cheer up' just because somebody tells you to.
I took an overdose of aspirin. I vomited it up the whole night. I still can't use Ariel washing powder, as it smells of aspirin vomit! By morning, when everybody got up, I was called a f**king liar because I wasn't still throwing up!
Some people are lovely, arn't they?

[Jan1957]

All suicides are down to pain micmak, mental or physical. It's just not being able to cope any more.

[daffy654]

When my illness gets worse I will almost definitely take my own life. I do not want to spend every minute of every day gasping for breath and having my other half have to see to my toilet and hygiene needs.

[micmak]

Jan, of mental pain i know nothing. Physical pain, well you've come to the right bloke.

[Jan1957]

Bless you micmak, I hope you are not in too much pain tonight. x

[micmak]

Bacardi is a decent pain killer Jan. Far better than analgesics.

[Zhukov]

Bless you both,micmak and daffy654.. xx

[Jan1957]

I know the feeling. Painkillers do nothing for me either but vodka is much better. x

[tamborine]

Alcoholic 34y son of friend did same at her home. She now has to move as her other children & g'kids wont visit the family home. Bringing my friend out of her grief is proving very hard.

[micmak]

Grieving in my opinion is life long tambo. My son died 3 years ago. There is not a day goes by that I think of him and silently shed a tear.

[micmak]

Daffy, Zhu, Tambo and especially Jan (who I know what you have gone through) I wish you all a good night. Jan I hope you sleep well tonight.♥

[tamborine]

The pain of losing a child must be terrible mikmak, am sorry for you.

[spotsandstripes]

Aw on my thread too!! Inconsiderate!!! I hope he never makes a comment like that again, needs to grow up and stop being insensitive.

Yea, its awful what happened to the family. suicide is a horrible horrible thing, ad the pain they leave behind is left for the ones closest to take to the grave as we never forget.

My friend hung themself and it was a hard thing to overcome. Its a pain that never goes away and in moments of dispair or hard times you pray to them but knowing you will never see their face again is hard to accept. You wonder if they didnt do it, where they would be and if they would be happy now. Post mortem results indicated he struggles and tried to get free, but it was too late. Thats hard to accept too because you know they changed their mind and it was too late.. Another girl in my uni, her brother committed suicide and she still gets upset to this day just hearing the word. I dont think the aftermath ever goes. I think it is always there, shadowing our thoughts often.

[twix123]

My son suffered from clinical depression and did the ultimate act 14 1/2 years ago at age 22. Unfortunately it is the highest cause of death in males between 18 and 25 after car accidents. Females seem to make the cry for help but pull out before finally committing suicide. It was very hard on his sister, who found him and cut him down. Luckily her 3 year old son, who was with her at the time, was probably too young to comprehend what was going on, and although we talk about our son with him, he has never asked us what happened.

My daughter had counselling for a while, and we went to a couple of meetings of a support group called 'Shadow of Suicide', but decided that this wasn't for us as the group consisted of similar bereaved parents talking about their children.

Luckily we have very supportive family and friends, and we still talk about James together - wondering what he would have been up to and if he would have had any children to carry on the family name. Naturally, at Christmas, which he would always spend at home with us, we always have a drink to absent and departed friends.

Life still goes on, although it is never the same!

[tamborine]

forgive me asking twix, did you move house after ?

[twix123]

Tambo, no we're still in the same house as it has both happy and sad memories.

[tamborine]

thanx twix, I'll tell my friend to stay in her house for the sad & happy memories.

[Zhukov]

I read all of your thoughts here.Immediately,there were reactions,polite,kind reactions...

..I"ve learned here.and so,am grateful.

[Zhukov]

Quite..redhelen!