What should I do?

[Simply_Lea]

I started work the other day and I met this guy who works with me. He's really amazing and sweet. When I'd finished work I started walking home and he left work early and came to find me so he could give me a lift home. He also helps me out a lot in the kitchen (we work in a pub kitchen), because I've only just started. I haven't asked him to help me, I didn't ask for the lift, but he did it anyway.
I really like him, but he already has a girlfriend. I was really jelous when I found out because he is just amazing. She is really lucky to be with him and I really wouldn't want them to break up because of me or anything, but I am finding it so hard. I like him so much.
I don't know what to do.
Help?

[bobjugs12]

Good point sqad. He's thinking with his little head, and shes thinking with the female equivilant. It'd be interesting to find out how old both parties are. My guess is he's 18-20 and she's 16-18

[ummmm]

So by going by what has been said....the bloke that use to pick me up and drop me off for work was really just trying to get into my pants? He would also help me if needed, plus we had great chats and good laugh.

Funnily enough.....he was just a nice bloke.

[redman41]

' A rampant C o c k hath no conscience'

[Bbbananas]

That's a bit harsh angel - does that only go for female 'slappers' - what about all the male tarts there are out there....?

[cazzz1975]

I used to have a bloke give me a lift to work, I thought he was just being nice but he started to try it on, he was married as well.

I just stopped the lift

[ummmm]

Which tend to be more than female.

[cazzz1975]

stopped having the lift

[Davethedog]

You know Ummmm didn't think of that, which is terrible of me.

Perhaps he is just a diamond and Lea is thinking to much of someone being helpful and nice to new girl.

What that says about me and certain others I hate to think.

[ummmm]

My Ex cheating was a blessing in disguise (I didn't like him much anyway)

[bobjugs12]

Ummm, in my first post on this I said he might just be a nice guy. If thats the case then she needs to step back before she starts making life difficult for him. I had something similar with our (mine and ex-wife) babysitter. She lived round the corner from us, and if I was driving into town or anything she'd always ask for a lift, and if she was sitting for us and my missus was going clubbing (or shagging lol) after the pub i'd come home early for her and we'd have a cuppa. I had no idea what was going on. I didn't realise the innapropriateness of the situation, until she tried it on wth me in my front room.
My wife went ballistic with me for leading her on, and we lost a good babysitter; this was down to me being 'nice'

[Sqad]

ummmm...in an "illicit" relationship, there is usually a female and a male partner.

My maths tell me that that is 50/50.......not a male domination.

[zzxxee]

note to self employ ugly babysitters lol

[ummmm]

Ok Sqad....true. But on the cheating I know more men that would do it than females. The person they are cheating with could be single...

[rowanwitch]

I suspect that because lea has asked the question regardless of whether she has or hasn't done anything she is feeling all is not right with the situation, I think bobjugs guess for her age is probably about right but he may be a bit older ....I get a sense of Lea being a bit overwhelmed by him paying her attention so I would guess 22-25. That is why I am a bit suspicious. I think she would have said if he was about her own age.

[bobjugs12]

Ummm, i disagree. From my exprence it's about 50/50.
The difference being the women who i've known cheat have more of a tendancy to do it as a weapon against their partner. They either shag one of his mates, or shag someone then bring them into their partners life.
Men on the other hand tend to have a one-nighter with some girl they've met when they're away from home, and don't tend to p1ss on ther own doorstep

Although that could just be servicemen and service wives lol