boyfriend trouble

[blondie83]

I'v only been with my boyfriend a couple months and we have fallen in love, but there is one issue hanging over us, when we very first got together back in the summer, I went out drinking with my best mate and her (male) cousin who was visiting, me and the cousin decided to go for a late night drunken swim in the sea. It was totally innocent, nothing happened, i didn't think anything of it at the time. My boyfriend obviously found out and went mad (despite the fact that we'd only been a couple for 3 days and I invited him out that night and he refused). Ever since then he has been accuasing me of cheating on him. He is so obsessed with me and this other guy, he's adament that something happened. I can see his point of view, it does look a bit suss, I admit that, but i can honestly put my hand on my heart and say that nothing happened. All we do is argue over it and i don't think can cope anymore. I love him so much, I have tried to break it off and he begs me not too and promises he won't accuse me again, but then he does, and I stupidly put up with it. We had another massive row about it last night, going on til 5am, now I don't know where I stand anymore and I'm in peices.
Can someone offer me some advise please on how to prove to him that I really do love him and would never cheat on him. I've even agreed to doing a lie detector test if that what it takes.

[blondie83]

I told him, but he'd already seen a comment id put on facebook just saying 'just got out the sea' .
But Squad, Iv never cheated before and i havn't cheated now. In my eyes, if it wasn't this issue, then it would be something else, I always feel like I'm not good enough for him.
On top of this i might add...he has an ex f**k buddy, who tried to also break us up, but he still chats to her on msn 'as friends' even tho she's always asking him to meet up for sex. In his eyes, that's ok tho. I'm sick of this one rule for him and another for me.

[DEN53]

blondie - lie detector test - oh my god - just dump him - I can see his point of view - but if you had only been seeing him for 3 days then its hardly set in stone. If he can't forgive and forget and will keep reminding you of it, then move on love.

[albaqwerty]

you've just answered your own question.
"I'm sick of this one rule for me and another for him"
get shot

[ummmm]

Sqad...tis true...but like I said you'd have to know us. We've all been friends from about the age of 5.

Blondie....get rid.

[TheEqualizer]

Yep x

[Sqad]

DEN...good morning my love.........they have been together for 3months not 3 days.

She is a woman and is "in love " with him....he is her "alpha male" and will take all kinds of cr@p to keep him.
That's what procreation is all about. Why do woman go for "bastards?), they do and on a regular basis. Once she is pregnant by hi, then she will look for Mr.Nice, although boring as hell, will support the family faithfully.

[DEN53]

Morning My Dear Sqaddie - I thought she said she has been with him for a couple of months but only a couple for 3 days (should have gone to SpecSave) silly me.

By the way I emailed Salla that you were back and she can't wait to try on the underwear from La Perla

[ummmm]

Den...she did..

despite the fact that we'd only been a couple for 3 days

[4getmenot]

sqad if two people trust eachother then a swim in the sea no matter who is there should not be an issue. It wouldnt bother me if my bloke did that. But then he wouldnt ever do it and I wouldnt put myself in that situation either

[Sqad]

DEN...thanks.

Would like a photo of you both, but no idea how to get one. I am not on FACEBOOK etc.

[China Doll]

Tell him to jog on and stop being such a door mat, it'll hurt but you'll get over it and if this is the only thing that hurts you all your life then you'll have got off lightly.

If you're argueing all the time it's hardly much of a relationship... Unless you happen to be one of those women who thrive on drama in which case, stick with it, sounds like it's a winner.

Good grief. Lie detector... Honestly.. Bloody tv shows and modern romance... Makes you want to stay single forever.

[blondie83]

Yes we have been together a couple months now but at the time it happened we'd only been together for 2 or 3 days.
In every other way he is amazing, buys me fowers, takes me to dinner, but at the end of the night, thats when the arguemets start and its tearing us apart.

[Sqad]

4get......why wouldn't either of you "do it?"

[DEN53]

She must have had him as just a friend then ummmm, I suppose - and then decided to be a couple.

[ummmm]

Single forever...who would put out the bin bags?

[4getmenot]

he would trust me If I said I'd been in that situation but I wouldnt get myself in that situation because it would not be fair on him when people start talking and spreading rumours.

[blondie83]

We had been 'seeing eachother' for about 6 weeks. He couldn't decide what he wanted and kept me hanging on all that time, he would even get funny with me then, but its too long a story to go into. then eventually we got together 'properly' and this happened a few days later.
I'm guessing we were just doomed from the start.

[TheEqualizer]

Yep x

[ummmm]

Sounds like it blondie :-(

[mccfluff]

ditch him, ditch him now, jeez imagine what the response would be if someothing serious happened