I've just realised

[angel21]

exactly how important communication is in a relationship!

I've heard people say it before and you just think yeah yeah (whats the word I'm looking for ?) and then you just get it.

Definitely very important - in the top three up there with trust and respect

[sara3]

better late than never!

[LFCFan5]

It is important to be able to talk to each other Angel,

[angel21]

Yep sure is sara3 and LFC

[logic]

yes but it's also important to keep your trap shut some of the time.

[Mr Veritas]

In our (60 year old) marriage,I remember this old saying~
"Whenever you are wrong admit it,and whenever you are right shut up!" LOL

[zzxxee]

yep you have to be honest love, keeps the lines of communication open

[madmaggot]

Communication; yes. Why is it that so many women sulk when someone has upset them and then say 'well he/she should know what's wrong!'
How can anyone, especially a mere man, know what's wrong if you don't actually tell them?

[Boobars]

Mad maggot may I also say that its very frustrating when men do not speak about their feelings/problems as well. I have just had a issue, which I thought had been sorted to find that after 48 hours of him only speaking when spoken too, and me saying whats wrong with you he finally stated that the issue was not. Though once disccuss it now has been (well I think !!!). Why stay in silence men if you are not happy with things speak before larger issues are made of something quite small.

[beso]

Boobars, a lot of men don't have the language to articulate their feelings. They know something is wrong but they don't comprehend it.

Although many will tell that it is because men are physiologically so different that they are unable to communicate is is actually as a result of being shut out all their lives.

In a surprising number of cases the communication problem lies with the incredibly poor listening skills of some women. Despite being fantastic listeners when it comes to the problems of their girlfriends, many women are quite incapable of giving their man a chance to gather his thoughts before writing him off as the poor communicator they have been told to expect in a man.

[karma22]

I asked my ex if he wanted to talk about one of our rows once - he said no

well I gave him the chance