hopeless at relationships

[getonwithit]

is it just me or are there lots of us out there . i am 40 now and cant commit ,had very secure upbringing ,but find being with one person suffocating hoped i would grow out of this!
i'm faithfull in the short relationships i have but the thought of staying with one person more than a few months...................................

[sara3]

there are plenty of us that have had lousy relationships, but for all sorts of reasons.

are you not happy then? what do you really want?

[pizza]

know what u mean geton x had great upbringing brought up with mum n dad n brother x
have met great guys through my life even til the present day
have ad long term relationships n mean 4 yrs n last 2 10 years but just mess around all the time x

[Bbbananas]

If you're quite happy with the way you are - get on with it!
You say you're faithful within a relationship - even if it's short - well that's good. There's no Law saying you have to commit - so if you don't feel you want to, don't. You've a long time yet to meet someone you may want to commit to, but if you don't - there's nothing wrong with you. We are what we are.

[pizza]

gud point sarah i reckon sum ov us dont ever know wot we want x

[weeal]

...and some of us know exactly what we want but canny find it

[pizza]

and as u rightlully sed salbananas we r wot we r x
we gotta b true 2 urselves x

[pizza]

wot do u want weall ? x

[tamborine]

All relationships are difficult - even those with own kids. Just take it 'one day at a time'. If there's a difficult period keep trying to resolve it. My tip - when things get rough: write a list of good & bad points to see if you can equal them up.

better the devil you know etc

[Bbbananas]

depends on how devilish the devil is !

[firetracie]

Hi honey! Not had a problem with committing - just had a problem with staying committed!
First relationship was violet - second abusive. Have kind of figured out that my judgement is poor so am staying single! lol.
Seriously, if you struggle with committment it's probably because you just haven't met the right person yet. Anyone's misgivings or hang-ups are usually challenged by an individual who - for some unknown reason - get's under our skin.
You say you've had a secure upbringing but how do you really feel about your parents relationship? Do you just get bored or are you worried about losing your identity if you 'give in' to being someone else's other half? Are you so focussed on your work that you resent someone else taking your intention away from it? Do you really want to settle down or do you just feel you are supposed to have a partner?
It's all about what you personally want and need and are open to. Maybe you're just not ready yet - regardless of the numbers. x

[pizza]

am [email protected] if anyone wants someone to listen x

[pizza]

meant am here if anyone wants to talk x