Does a guy who sleeps around ever become the faithful settle-down type?

[maplestar]

I'm mates with a guy. He's good-looking, a charmer down to a fine art, maybe a sleeze... but underneath it, he's a good bloke (ish!) with some issues. He's still young... has slept with more than 20 women, do you think he could ever settle down; can the beast be tamed? Also, am i being ignorant; is 20+ not actually that much?

[dot.hawkes]

who told you he had slept with more than 20 women? If he did he's not for you, he's just looking for a tally count, tell him you're more than a number

[legend.isgod]

no he willl stay wild

[maplestar]

what if i asked? [stupid me i know]

[China Doll]

Probably but only when they want to, it's not a matter of tameing them. If you want to tame something get a pet, if you want to take a risk try dating this guy. Generally trying to change someone will leave you with egg on your face.

[mightyWBA]

No chance,hes playing the field.Either jump on and enjoy the ride ,or dump the giggolo and be thankful you dont get crabs etc.

[maplestar]

we kinda had a thing a while back, it was great at the time, but after a few quickies we moved [literally countries] apart. quite frankly it made me feel like crap; another number exactly, but somehow he still makes the effort to stay mates with me. i know if a friend/ ABer asked this i'd say exactly what you guys have said! needed to hear it i guess. just he's been sort of coming onto me and i've tried talking some sense into me... and i learnt a while back, you can never change anyone, thanks guys.x

[brenda]

Dump him , he's a scumbag.
Pull yourself together, you are worth so much more.
Good luck, I know it's hard foryou to do this but it will get better

[jno]

Warren Beatty seems to have settled down after decades of incessant womanising. That was into his 50s, but yes, it can be done. When you think about it, most people (of either sex) sleep around until they're ready to settle down, then most stay faithful. As to whether your guy is ready, who can say? But it's possible.

Don't know about 20 but it's fewer than Andie McDowell had in Four Weddings and a Funeral.

[terambulan]

You be 'the one that got away'. Play hard to get and make him crawl!

[Ice.Maiden]

I think it can be done as well. My husband'd got some history behind him when we got together, but he's very trustworthy. Mind you, he was way past 20 when we started seeing each other, so maybe your guy WILL change, but he's young and got to sow his oats first.

[mibn2cweus]

Buy a lottory ticket while yore at it . . . who knows? You might not be able to git rid of the bum . . .


Don't mind me . . . just jelious . . . ~o">

[4getmenot]

yes same as any woman can. I should know.

[maplestar]

thanks everyone. but he's not my guy! thanks brenda, but if i'm not dating him then dump him as a friend? i thnk that's a bit harsh... appreciate all your comments.

[B00]

you said the guy's still young? He's doing what's natural.

Ebventually he'll meet the "one" and will settle down, happens to us all. If he's not harming anyone and who he's sleeping with is aware it won't be a long term thing, I say let him carry on.

[beso]

Warren Beatty settled down with the next woman he met after going though the trauma of being with Madonna. She could probably cure a lot of guys of their philandering ways.

[catcuddler]

my partner slept with in the region of 30-50 women in his lates teens and was very much a player which he now regrets.he married his ex wife and stayed faithful for over 10 years until she cheated on him so i would say your friend is capable of changing but its whether hes wants to or not.as hes still young he may want to sow his wild oats before he has responsibilities

[Bbbananas]

He probably will settle down.. eventually... but not for years yet.

I'd say, stay mates, but I wouldn't go looking for commitment & a monogamous relationship with him, because he doesn;t sound anywhere near ready yet.

[Suzieb]

He'll settle down when he finds someone he wants to settle down with. That might be you, it might not be.

If you like him then give it a go, but just be cautious. He sounds like every other 20 year old bloke I know to be honest!
Sleeping around and having a laugh doesn't make someone a bad bloke, it makes them a typical young, care-free lad.

[happyone2]

im sorry, but am i the only one who doesnt think 20 is a big number ???