page 3!!!!!

[lynneylou]

Yesterday i was on pc on my hubby's login, began to type in a web addi when loads of page3.com addis appeared. when i asked my husband, he acted puzzled and said he'd have to look into it. After 15 mins of him then not talkin to me, i asked him again why and he admitted that he'd been looking at them. Not only am i surprised that after 12 years he suddenly felt he had to look but the lies he told about doin it. I feel so low that he had to look elsewhere at girls the same age as our daughters, is he bored with me now??? I am so confused. He says ive made a mountain out of a molehill and need to accept it!!! i cant even sleep in our bed anymore!!!!

[Suzieb]

Men like looking at pictures of naked women, no matter how much in love they are. It's a fact. I really, really wouldn't let it worry you!

[lizzydrippin]

you really are making a mountain out of a molehill and its kinda obvious why he felt the need to lie about it, he knew you'd make an issue out of it, its harmless ogling and has nothing whatsoever to do with love or being bored with someone. The quickest way to bore him is to carry on acting the way you are. Get a grip woman.

[funkymoped]

relax girl... your man looking at page 3 isnt a crime or a moral sin.
so what if the WOMEN he looks at are the same age as your daughters !
will there still be a problem in 10 years when the page 3 girls are in their 30s ??
i dont think there will to be honest.
just take no notice, its natural to be looking at good looking women of all ages.
the time to worry is when you open his login and find gay sex images !!!!
seriously, there isnt an issue.
:-)

[Pippa68]

I very much doubt he has only just started looking at them.

Mr Pippa looks...and I can always tell which ones he likes the look of ;o)

Actually I think he can tell the names of the girls just by looking at their boobs! it's no big deal in my opinion ~ I think the problem lies more with you than with him.

[bednobs]

i agree with the above answers. he hasnt "suddenly" felt the need to look, hes probably been looking since he was 13!, it's just you can do it online now instead of mags!
no wonder he lied to you about it. How horrible that he dosent even feel he can tell you the truth because you'e gonna get all uppity and not sleep in the same bed as him. It is perfectly normal for men and women to look at porn and to be honest page 3 type stuff is pretty tame! you really are making a mountain out of a molehil, and making him feel like a naughty little boy.
However, if youve only been with him 12 years, how old are your kids? Is he looking at children and gettin gratification, or is it women?

[chicklin]

Stop worrying about it girl!
He's a normal male, whats wrong with looking at nice young female bodies?
It doesn't mean for one minute that he would swap you for any of them. He's only LOOKING!
It could be much worse...at least its not young men he's looking at!
Chill out...he's doing no harm....

[angel-cake]

I still fail to understand why woman get so angry about men looking at soft porn. It is an age-old thing. They have been doing it for years and will continue to do so. Of all porn, page 3 is the most harmless.

Why don't you suggest looking at it with him? He probably wouldn't believe his luck!!

I have no idea what you s3x life is like and im certainly not saying this is you, but woman who never want it with their husbands/partners should really not be surprised when they are looking at things like this.

[Pippa68]

I wouldn't even consider page 3 as porn at all!

[B00]

Considering some of the sites available out there I think you should be grateful that all he's looking at is tame pics of women in the nude!

[fbg40]

If your hubby starts looking at pics of men then you'd better start worrying !!!
FBG40

[andy-hughes]

OK, let's try looking at this from your perspective, rather than theirs.

I understand that you are surprised and upset by this revelation, and you feel doubly hurt - one because your husband is looking at pictures of women, and two because he attempted to evade the issue.

So, you need to take a step back and think calmly about what has happened, why, and the way forward for both of you.

As has been suggested, this will not be the first time your husband has looked at pictures like this - the advance of the Internet makes access to images limitless, and most men are tempted but ...

this does not in any way refllect ohhis attitude towards, or feelings for you and your marriage.

Looking at erotica is a sseriously strong inbuilt impulse in men - there is a multi-billion pound world-wide industry built on it - and it relies on the simple fact that, given an opportunity, most men will look at picturers of attractive young women, so rest assured, your husband is not in any way abnormal in doing this.

It is important to grasp the fundamental fact of the male psyche - looking at a stranger does not affect his thoughts, attitude, or love for you - it's a transient pleasure, like eating a cream cake - there one minute, gone the next, it's literallly that important in the scehem of things.

You feel shocked and betrayed because this is a side of your husband's nature which you knew nothing about, and it has made you doubt him as a husband and partner. Please don't let it . His rather clumsy attempt to difuse the situation was caused as much by embarassment as any desire to deceive you - he feels foolish for bieng caught, and guilty because he knows he has hurt you.

You need to have an honest talk about this. Explain that it is his secrecy and the shock that has upset you, but assure him that he is still the same person he has always been (because he is!) and

[MrsT]

You're fortunate that he is clearly a bit of an amateur with computers if he was any good he'd have turned of the content savers, history etc. Either that or he is very good and has seeded the history with the page 3 stuff and hidden the hard core stuff out of sight and let you discover the minor stuff to reassure you that he's only into that. I suggest you get on to an IT Geek site and find out what he's really into!

[MrsT]

oh I forgot to mention, Dennis used to have a Page 3 calendar when we where in No 10, I didn't find it too offensive as long as I was allowed my hunky poliitician calendar in my office!

[Skreecheeboy]

I regularly look at porn on the internet. Mind you I'm a hopeless womaniser. If it's only page 3 pics though I wouldn't worry about it. As the others have said, page 3 photos are really very tame. You could see their content looking around any beach in southern Europe.

[Goodsoulette]

I just accept that men do it, every man. I did go out with one guy who volunteered the information that it did nothing for him but then I just became weary that he was getting his kicks from something super weird like fish or crisp packets.

I think it's inbuilt in men to be secretive about it but that doesn;t mean your husband doesn;t love you, respect you or find you attractive still. As Andy says, have a little chat with but don;t get upset because he means no hurt or malice.

[Big Stu]

i agree with all answers above but it really isn't anthing to do with you. blokes..........love..............boobs

[Big Stu]

sorry just saw my last post and let me just say i didn't mean to imply you should mind your own business, I meant that it isn't your fault and there is nothing wrong with you at all. As an earlier post pretty much said it is just the way men are. I am sure when you see a good looking guy you wonder what he would look like naked. speak to your hubby before it becomes a stupidly big deal. actually make a joke out of it. tell him for a laugh it was all the gay porn you found that worried you!!! good luck

[thundercats]

QUOTE: "I'm surprised after 12 years he suddenly felt he had to look"

I don't want to sound too harsh but he's probably been looking at stuff since puberty..... it's just more available now with the internet.

It's everywhere now anyway. They where very little in music video's and they're on all the time.

He's gonna look whether you like it or not. He's a MAN!!

I wouldn't worry.

[thundercats]

QUOTE: "I'm surprised after 12 years he suddenly felt he had to look"

I don't want to sound too harsh but he's probably been looking at stuff since puberty..... it's just more available now with the internet.

It's everywhere now anyway. They *WEAR* very little in music video's and they're on all the time.

He's gonna look whether you like it or not. He's a MAN!!

I wouldn't worry.



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[luckyman]

no big deal!!!!!!!!! bout time u grew up realised that we men like this kinda thing.....i wud be more worried if he wasnt lookin at !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!