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[LittleMissxx]

to moan. its hard. why is it so hard ? 4 two people that are meant to love each other , why does he make me feel like ****. and even when u say, heh your behaviour is making me feel like crap, why do they carry on ? Selfish ? I like to think im a great new wife, cooking cleaning, very supportive to all his **** ups, took him into my family , took on his football and debt , to be rewared with being ignored or at best hurled abuse at. I waited 35 years for this ! Few have come, and gone.. really decent ones too that treated me like a princess, i didnt expect to settle for this. Love is just a word they use when they want something. aw i dunno............ HELP

[jno]

what on earth makes you think you're meant to love each other? And since you ask, why did you turn down all the nice guys in order to get together with this one? Sounds like you need to be needed, which is not a great basis for an equal relationship. He sounds like an idiot, but who's the idiot who fell for him? Seriously: you can't change him, you can only change yourself. Do you want to stay with him, or with someone else who looks like him but acts better? Your choice - but the second one isn't actually on offer.

[hotpink]

it's very easy to blame other for their faults, but much harder to pick out your own bad points. not everything is his fault, or else you wouldn't have married him. you need to sit down and talk through what makes you upset, and ask him to do the same. i do not speak about my husband the way you just have. maybe if you had a little bit more respect for him, you would get some back.