a girl I know uptown had no confidence and she falt fat and ugly and as soon as she lost a bit of weight, even though still quite large people commented on it and that gave her a bit more confidence, she got married and got more friends and started going out alot more, she's now single and living alone after her bloke found out about all her affairs. You may like all this attention and it makes you feel good but put yourself in the wifes shoes, and yes I agree With fiest. Only because I probably used to be exactly the same as you too, but in the end it didn�t make me happy.