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Ok so I posted something on here YESTERDAY! Today I just need to get something off my chest. My boyfriend is a jerk! We spend saturday nights togther without fail. Friday nights we spend with mates. This saturday hes going round a mates to watch a big fight! He says he'll pick me up after!! But whats the point of going there at 12in the morning? Last Saturday was the same thing. Didnt get to spend the evening with him. Was there from about 10.30! Then as soon as we got home he went to sleep. I just want to hear other peoples points of view. This is going to be the 2nd Saturday that I dont get to spend with him now. I feel abit neglected to be honest with you. I've told him how i feel abit, havent told him i feel neglected. And he says he wont go but then I dont want him not to go and have the ump with me. You know be the big bad controlling GF! Am I being unreasonable?
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I'd just let him. I know too much from past experience that You�ll just push him away. As long as he has told you well in advance then it is his life. I used to get annoyed if we�d planned something and he�d tell me at last minute. Why are you so worried? Is it the time apart or are you worried you�re growing apart?
I don�t think you have anything to worry about because he has said he�ll not go if you want. But you should never do that as he will hold it against you that he missed a night with the lads. You sound like me a year ago, I used to see my bloke on Wednesdays and at weekends, then he started seeing his mates again, which I never minded but he would always tell me at last minute so I couldn�t plan to go out with my mates. When I�d want to see him on a Tuesday he�d say no Wednesdays are our day, even on valentines!! Then he started up golf with his mates on a Wednesday night!!! Didn�t say to them oh hang on that�s not our day. I eventually had enough and dumped him this valentines because I was fed up of having to be there just when he needed me but he was never there when I needed him. But I think your situation is different and you can work on it and it does seem he communicates a bit more than my ex did. You just need to let him do his own thing. I am with someone new now and if I have something to do I tell him same as he does with me, and no certain days.
I know what some of you are saying. I know I've got to let him do his own thing to, which I'm fine with. The thing thats bothering me the most is he seems to be making a habit out of it. Maybe I am worried that were growing apart. Friends have suggested I let him do what hes doing and give him a taster of his own medicine, but that seems a bit childish you know tic for tac?? I've agreed to see him after and we'll spend Sunday together but its not the same really.
I know in a relationship you need space but then again theres some people who dont mind being round each other 24/7. And this is obviously one of those cases where he needs some space and I am going to start. But its just that as I never really got to spend quality time with him last weekend it was bugging me. But iv spoke to him and Saturday day time he said hes going park with the lads and invited me. Then after they'll go off and watch their game. Then i'll see him again in the evening. I think hes tryna make up for it. Do you think I should?
