Hi Im New, And Need Advice On This Girl Ive Fallen For

[smith95]

Im 17, lets save the too young to be in love debate for another day :) I started a college course (UK) in september and noticed a pretty attractive girl in my class, as I sat back and observed her behaviour for a week I became more attracted, I never spoke to her as I wanted her to break the ice, when I like a girl I tend to have the least interaction with her in the group. Eventually we got talking, and my shyness towards her was a mis-match for her quirky, bubbly personality so I seemed a bit boring tbh. She was trying to break my shy shell, she would ask me to go to lunch with her, go to the printer for 5 minutes etc when discussing hair on guys she called me all the way across the class just to look at my legs lol this all led me to believe she may like me, with no disrespect to my male friends in the class who are not as concerned with their appearance as me I would guess im the most attractive guy in the class so it would be natural for us to gravitate towards eachother.

My shyness slowly destroyed my chance if I had one, she started doing stuff with the other guys in the class which made me think maybe im the same as them, but something was special and developing when she used to ask me. I decided because my shyness ruins things, Ill avoid her and continue to be my funny comfortable self around others, it was painfully obvious yet became the norm. I got bad acne, im still recovering now, its nearly gone but for the past 2 months its made me avoid coversing with her as my confidence was drained, im sure im now classed as the good looking guy who it is awkward to chat to and doesnt want to talk for whole days. She compliments my clothes, thats good, because she is so beautiful and knows it I dont know whether to compliment her and be boring, or tease her like I did when we first spoke. She is really into herself and looks, vain and knows she is stunning, gets complimented 24/7. My acne is nearly gone, im going in to give it another shot, I need advice :( I havent gone into detail about my infatuation/love for this girl but if I had to choose a wife right now id choose her.

[smith95]

You know I came here from Yahoo Answers as I genuinely believed I would get more mature answers from people who actually wanted to help, there are no contradictions its just I never elaborated or went into great detail about certain stuff to spare the Fluffing essay I know people cant be bothered to read. Heres some facts im 17, im a male, yes I suffer from an overbite as stated before, and ive had a bad few months of acne which it uncommon which has destroyed my confidence as I saw myself as ugly, does that mean I cant be atleast good looking when I do not suffer from it? it actually hurts to see you saying "he cant be good looking". Rojash you have been reading for 55+ years so i'll assume your in your 60's yet your stupid Fluffing claims that im a female are ridiculous, give me one logical reason as to why I would post as one being on a question and pose as another on my second question, what do I gain when clearly in desperate need of help in completely different circumstances?. As for my "contradictions" grasscarp, as your small brain could not gather the initiative to think for itself, im a funny and lively personality apart from when I find myself in the presence of this girl I like, its common and I would have thought everyone would understand therefore I spared going into extra detail. @Daffy, your comment is possibly one of the most ridiculous, sexist and stereotypical comments of them all, despite declaring my love or infatuation for this girl, you still dismiss my claim that I would happily marry this girl if given the chance? you might as well not answer the question at all upon seeing its about teenage love.

I doubt ill use this site again, I tried looking for serious advice from people online as ive not got anybody to turn to about this subject anymore. Now because you all seem to be so hell-bent on debunking my apparent "false identity", ill tell you who I am once again. Im 17, im a male, yes I have braces and a overbite I suffer from day to day, I try make up for it by taking pride in my appearance, I dress well and fashionably which I get complimented for, I suffer from on and off acne which causes my confidence to fluctuate grossly, on a high im lively, chatty, funny and I love to make people laugh, when im at my lowest you will find me in the corner of the classroom avoiding any eye contact with the people I want to impress. Im human, and I do not have the time to pose as multiple beings online, and if you want to tear apart my cry for help with ludicrous accusation atleast justify them with belivable motives, none of you have given one yet. If this was enough of me for you to feel like actually given some advice, please do as so far all ive received is abuse.

[smith95]

Oh and if you need me to add some more pieces to the puzzle, maybe you think im female because my writing is of a higher quality than your average 17 year old guy, well actually its one of my strongest skills and thats why I study writing for the media in college, not journalism in an American "college", a UK media level 3 course in which you find very little males who are as concerned by their appearance than I am, generally they are what people like you commenting would label "geeks" as I know your so fond of stereotyping. Thats why I would say im probably the most aesthetically appealing guy in the class, and oh boy I guarentee I will get some more stick for that right?

[TTG]

Why not ask her out for a coffee somewhere? Get to know her a bit better. Take things slowly but don't leave it too long before asking her out for an evening date. Good luck!

[Svejk]

UK Media level 3 course?
God help us.

[sir.prize]

Well that's put Rojash, Grasscarp and Daffy well and truly in their place by a 17-year-old confused geek.

[magsmay]

Just trying to find a collective noun for armchair psychologists -a complex perhaps -or a malapertness ? Give the poor guy a break - we've all been 17 and in love -surely?

[magsmay]

@smith95 Either this is a homework project -and if it is you will get no joy on this site -or you are getting yourself worked up in a typically 17 year old way about the opposite sex. If its the latter then one small point -please don't tell the girl she compliments your clothes. From what you have written you both seem to be on the same wave level -shallow, vain and into yourselves -so you never know -this could be a match made in heaven. HTH x

[joko]

Magsmay - i dont think he meant she 'matches his clothes', he probably meant she gives him compliments about his clothing...

[smith95]

Wow surprisingly some semi-positive answers rather than a bunch of pseudo-intellectual middle aged/pensioners venting their mid-life crisis frustration on the younger generation. @magsmay I really dont think I said we match clothes, I said she compliments my clothing therefore how does this make me shallow, vain or into myself?

[FredPuli43]

Pseudo-intellectual middle-aged/ pensioners? Just because they don't use adolescent insults like that doesn't mean they are as you claim. They may simply be people who can remember being a 17 year-old boy. I certainly can, it was that painful. First thing I did at that age was analyse every little thing about someone for signs of response. Step back and stop doing it.

[Svejk]

Lol @ P.I.M.A.P.s. Probably about right there, Smudger.

[smith95]

Oh sorry @Fred, my insults are soo much more childish than the old miserable hags calling me a 17 year old, ugly, vain, shallow and a lot more I cant be bothered to read up on. Lets be honest, everything I said is a lot more accurate than anything they conjured up to hurt my feelings. The nerve you have to step in and tell me to "step back and stop doing it", please point out the moment I began "doing it", tearing into these people for no reason because I can show you when I was victimized, instantly. I dont over analyze I just read people very well as like you all im human, and right now its obvious you have some sort of issue with agreeing/backing up a 17 year old, because rather than agreeing with or advising me, you decided to try jump on the bandwagon and attempt to tear apart my defense I had to put up after many false accusations/name calling which occured instantly and I quite clearly proved to be wrong, lets just hate on the hormonal teenager who likes to complain and point fingers, if anything you all seem like the teenagers lol idiots.

[humbersloop]

well, leaving all that aside smith, have you pulled her yet?

[baza]

If you had to choose a wife right now you would choose her, what a lovely pair you would make, fighting over the mirror.

[smith95]

@humbersloop unfortunately not, im still in need of advice as I said im pretty far off "pulling her" since ruining any chance I had. On a positive note for myself my acne is clearing so im regaining my confidence and ability to look people in the face, and ive decided to open up tactfully at the right time in order to try improve the situation rather than make it worse, thanks for asking though. @Baza, its pretty clear im very self-conscious because of acne and my overbite, and try to make up for my imperfections by being a nice guy and taking pride in my appearance. Im not vain, however im a realist and when trying to describe all the factors of this situation I am in need of help for, I will not lie and say im nerd amongst nerds, I put it as respectfully as possible originally, the literal truth needed to be spoken in order for people to assess my situation to the best of their ability. Why do you and others find it hard to grasp that? please say something positive of f@ck off.

[gness]

You said you need advice. My advice is to be a little less rude or you'll never get the opportunity to choose a wife.

[Answerprancer]

Smith95, you're 17, so what if you have a f*cking "overbite" that's superficial to anyone who has a soul. You're young and still working things out and guess what - we're all shy at times. Just go with the flow, relax and enjoy whatever comes out of it.
Don't hang on too much to expectations, the more you hang on to competitive thoughts about other guys getting on (or off) with her, the less relaxed and the more uptight you're likely to come across, just be yourself at your best and be there (ie. don't slink off).
My two pennyworth.

[Answerprancer]

ps.
"I dress well and fashionably which I get complimented for"
Just a thought: if you are doing this to 'compensate' for your feelings of inadequacy then I would suggest that you let go and relax, be yourself. In my experience, we are more 'magnetic' when we are happily being our true selves.

"I suffer from on and off acne which causes my confidence to fluctuate grossly".
EVERYONE at your age has stuff that they consider to be sufferable, whether it be something external or more hidden.

"On a high im lively, chatty, funny and I love to make people laugh, when im at my lowest you will find me in the corner of the classroom avoiding any eye contact with the people I want to impress".
Join the club. When you're high - you'll attract people and have fun, when you're low - you'll attract emos.

[smith95]

@gness, I did say that, and I also said if you have nothing nice to say then f@ck off. I was rude in retaliation to a lot more rudeness which was dished my way and its extremely clear. Im questioning the sanity of most of you as you surely cant be this blind. @Answerprancer thank you very much on your answers I will definitely take note, and congrats on being the first person to give detailed advice, your the first out of 55+, you deserve a medal.