A Story About A Love Affair

inamuddle1 | 00:47 Fri 18th Jan 2013 | Relationships & Dating

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some time ago I met a guy at a night club, it was new years night 2 years ago. We spoke for a while, I wasnt really interested and swapped facebooks. Valentines night arrives and I get a message from this guy, we got chatting and he asked me out and that's when it started.

He told me he had a child and was split from the partner. So I was cool with this. He also lives in a different city from me, so we didnt see each other very often, so a casual thing. But i found him super sexy, and he approached me in the club, so he's attracted to me too.

Anyway, 1 1/2 years pass of this very casual friendship, slowly getting to know each other better etc etc. Then one day he arrives and advises me that the mother of his child wants to have something with him again, and he thinks that he can make it work. I didnt like it too much, and i'm not sure going back is ggood in relationships, but it's different when there is a child involeved, and depends a lot on the situation etc etc, none of my business anyway.

So they got back together, and admitidly I have not seen as much of him since they got back together, but we have been in constant contact over the phone, and I feel that from just meeting this one guy in a club, to getting to know him better, we've become quite close, and good friends even. He's super nice, and sexy and things I tell know one, he has figured out about me, without me even telling him! In the last couple of weeks our friendship has changed. I feel we bonded somewhere, and a bond was created. It's such a shame.

Its bad timing. But then I have to ask myself, would he even be with me if he wasnt also with the mother of his child. But that's not the point anyway, the point is that tonight I said to him that I wanted to be his only girl, and he said, its impossible. So there is my answer,,, it's impossible.

We have a nice friendship, a real one where we know stuff about each other and I would like to say honest, but he's not the most honest of guys. lol... oh god, i swear I know this guy is a rat, but there is still something i like about him, its his manner, and his attitude. He says he needs to be with the mother of his child to see his child, he says its the only way. He also says they dont have horny sex together...

I dont know what to do. I should just sack him, I would do it easier if I didnt think we had a ggood friendship. It's been 2 years. But he said it was impossible, so doesnt leave much choice. Just wish I wasnt so god dam addicted to him. Im not doing much else right now, working, seeing friends. He also told me he doesnt like giving Oral the other day, he's a hot guy, that doesnt like giving oral... he said it wasnt his preference lol... This is bothered me too... What do you think girls? 2 years with this guy.

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lcg

you are a mug giving it to him on a plate....at least stop giving him oral until he reciprocates! he just sounds selfish, selfish, selfish....and you sound like a doormat. sorry, but that is my opinion.

Canary42

I agree with lcg76 - dump him NOW (as you should have done ages ago).

Jemisa

I've got to agree with Icg, and say also "Where is your self esteem?"

Get Rid...

jem

Canary42

... unless of course you like being his "bit on the side".

inamuddle1

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thanks! yeah it;s a bit mental isnt it. I've been very honest in this post.

woofgang

Grow a backbone and kick him to the kerb......haven't you posted something similar before?

woofgang

Yes, you have.....

inamuddle1

Question Author

Trust me, I have self esteme, I just like this guy. but yeah, the oral thing bothers me, lots of things bother me about him. I should just finish it. I was thinking of ways to finsih it with him, and when he walks up the stairs i could be waiting with a bucket of cold water and throw it over him, and then throw a bag of flower, take a quick picture and run in the house and lock the door...

I was thinking of dong that lol

Canary42

Don't beat yourself up about it - it's easy to make mistakes under such circumstances, and it often needs an outside opinion for you to realise something you subconsciously knew all along.

Move on, and good luck.

inamuddle1

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I have a backbone, I have self esteem. I did post a similar post, about the same person, we are still in contact.

woofgang

I just re read some of your other questions and I do think there is something underlying this.....maybe not low self esteem, but something that makes you doubt your worth and perhaps have a not very realistic view of the world. There is no need to get nasty, just tell him it's ended. You are worth more than this!

inamuddle1

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Yes it's been an ongong issue for a while. I dont like things like that too much. And he laid it on the table tonight by saying it was impossible. SO, there is not much point. I notice im not even looking at other guys now, because I've got all this Sugar going on in my head with him. Leave it with me people. I need to get my head round this. Thanks