A Bit heavy for a Monday!

[crafty]

I recently underwent major chemotherapy in hospital.
I nearly gave up during one unforgettable night.
A terminally ill patient opposite talked me through the nightmare for 8 hours until the drugs took hold and i fell asleep. When i awoke to thank him, he had passed away.
I want to thank him but i don't know how.
I know he was religious but i am not - but i want to go to church. Maybe he will hear me there.
How does someone get so strong and brave as to do something like that?

[georgit79]

crafty, that post just brought a tear to my eye- so very touching.

I don't think you need to go to church to say thankyou to him; he will hear you wherever he is.  Does he have any family you can contact? I am sure this story would be of great comfort to them.

I wish you all the best in your recovery.

[crafty]

I hadn't really thought of that - that's a great idea thank you. x

[Miss Zippy]

I agree with georgit79, it is not necessary for you to go to church to have your thanks heard. I also agree that his family would draw huge comfort from the fact their loved one inspired your will to live to triumph over the immense pain and fear you must have been going through � I would try and put this down in a handwritten letter that they can keep. If you want to do something more, perhaps you could find out if he had a cause/charity close to his heart that you could do something for?

[crafty]

thanks miss zippy,
What gave him the strength do you think to be able to spend his last hours helping someone else in such a way?
If i am ever in his situation i hope i can be as brave as he was

[Miss Zippy]

I really can�t answer that part of your question crafty.  It�s probably the most unselfish and compassionate thing a person could do, to help someone cling onto life when they can feel their own ebbing away. Perhaps if you get the chance to meet his loved ones, you can find out about the sort of life he led and what experiences he may have had that shaped him and turned him into the person who was able and willing to help you.

[Hammer]

I think that peoples attitudes change in a way that most of us cannot comprehend at the very end of their lives. He could be so kind, inspiring and selfless because he had accepted that his time had come, whereas you are still fighting and deep down you know that the fight is far from over and you want to get on with your life. I agree with the others that you do not need to do anything in particular to show him how much he meant to you - he will know, wherever he is.

[christie]

Ihope your never in a situation where you use your last words to help someone but from what youve put on here if you were you would do it because you are already brave and strong for what your going through and im sure the paitent who helprd you could see that,I wish you all the luck in the world.

[ICEMANSAV]

As with all the excellent answers given here I agree you do not need to do anything in particular to show your appreciation. He helped you as he felt this was the only ( if not the best ) way he could fight his own illness, by helping another. Such situations make people's spirit shine through and the biggest thanks you could give him is to help others like he helped you.

[georgit79]

Believe it or not, crafty, this thread has really brightened my Monday! It just goes to show that there is some humanity out there. You have been through something huge and terribly painful, but you've also experienced something you'll never forget.

 

[crafty]

Theres no doubt that i see the world as such a beautiful place now. Everything seems brighter - the trees the sky.... Life is so precious. Recovering from such an illness does make you realise that we are all children of the universe. I just wanted to thank everyone that replied to my message - sometimes its nice to know that people  care enough to reply to a stranger. Thank you so much.
samx x

[Robinia]

I know how you feel crafty because I've been there.

Apart from all the wonderful doctors, family, etc a couple of strangers did some very simple, but to me very kind things. Many years on I've never forgotten.  Neither will you. Maybe your stranger was helped in some way too by talking to you.

All the best x

[georgit79]

That's really good to know, crafty. Posts like this remind the rest of us that our problems really aren't problems at all! Happy Mondays!

[Kay]

Hello Crafty,I feel humbled having read your post and my heart goes out to you.Maybe that lovely man wanted to pass what strength he had left onto you. Being a spirtitualist I know that people who have passed over like flowers as they signify love. If you know this mans family why not send a small bunch of flowers? I send flowers to you in these words from a song. "If I can help somebody as I go along then my living has  not been in vain"

[mr gary]

wow some great posts here! But as your not religious, don't go to church, just do something nice for someone, preferably a stranger. if i have had a bad day or week at work i try to do something for someone, you wouldn't believe how nice it feels. it also goes someway to ensure that the world is not all doom and gloom.

[shellpurse]

Maybe it was God who was speaking through him?  Religion is a choice.  Some say it is a very wise choice.  What's more beautiful than letting God have all of your cares and concerns and believing in your heart that He will take care of them?  We are only renting a space here for awhile, and God gives life and takes it away.  Thank this man through God.  I believe God has blessed you.  Please find strength in Him.  Hugs.