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should i tell him& how???
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Ive just discovered im 6 wks pregnant with somebody i wrk with.
We had one crazy drunken night, he's a lovely fella, we both like each other but im about to go travelling & the times not right for us, we've already discussed it & left it at that.
Everythings gone back to normal which im very relieved about & now this bombshell.
Should i tell him? im not keeping the baby & thats my final descision, does he have to know? I really need advice as i have no idea what the right thing is??
I dont wnat to ruin our relationship, or give him the worst news of his life ect...
We had one crazy drunken night, he's a lovely fella, we both like each other but im about to go travelling & the times not right for us, we've already discussed it & left it at that.
Everythings gone back to normal which im very relieved about & now this bombshell.
Should i tell him? im not keeping the baby & thats my final descision, does he have to know? I really need advice as i have no idea what the right thing is??
I dont wnat to ruin our relationship, or give him the worst news of his life ect...
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of course i give a ****!
Im extremely shocked & beyond upset but its not the right time for me plus im only 24 & we're not even together.
If I was going ahead with it of course I would tell him! Thats why im questioning it, do I make him as terrible. guilt ridden & stupid as i do now or do i spare him??
Im extremely shocked & beyond upset but its not the right time for me plus im only 24 & we're not even together.
If I was going ahead with it of course I would tell him! Thats why im questioning it, do I make him as terrible. guilt ridden & stupid as i do now or do i spare him??
Ive only just found out & literally ran out of my docs sugery,
I was actually there to get my travel jabs as im going away for a year in 6 wks & it was a routine test that was done, Ive even had a period this month hence the shock.
Travelling is something that ive been planning since i started uni 4 yrs ago. got my degree a year ago & have been wrking & saving since to leave, I know some may consider it totally selfish & maybe it is but its ben my goal for too long to give it up.
I was actually there to get my travel jabs as im going away for a year in 6 wks & it was a routine test that was done, Ive even had a period this month hence the shock.
Travelling is something that ive been planning since i started uni 4 yrs ago. got my degree a year ago & have been wrking & saving since to leave, I know some may consider it totally selfish & maybe it is but its ben my goal for too long to give it up.
Yep. Boobies and everything....
I can see where the confusion comes in so let me put it another way....
What if he really wanted you to keep it?
You willing to risk that? Are you sure you want to put yourself through the heartache of a conversation like that when you've appeared to have made up your mind completely on the subject?
Acting normal... Well I don't know, I compartmentalise very well so acting normal when things are going t its up has never really been a problem with me. But you'll cope, you really will... It'll be hard but you'll cope. Keep your end goal in mind.
And also, is he really someone you're going to keep in touch with forever and a day? If so, then maybe tell him, I don't know. But then your relationship will be affected forever.
Maybe I'm cold but I would just not be willing to put myself in the situation where I have to justify a decision (if it came to that) or hurt someone when there's no need.
I don't know what to say tiddler, I probably come across as quite unfeeling but I just think that you're going to feel guilty and sh1t about the whole thing anyway so why make yourself feel worse by telling him? It's just something else on the plate that really doesn't need to be there.
I can see where the confusion comes in so let me put it another way....
What if he really wanted you to keep it?
You willing to risk that? Are you sure you want to put yourself through the heartache of a conversation like that when you've appeared to have made up your mind completely on the subject?
Acting normal... Well I don't know, I compartmentalise very well so acting normal when things are going t its up has never really been a problem with me. But you'll cope, you really will... It'll be hard but you'll cope. Keep your end goal in mind.
And also, is he really someone you're going to keep in touch with forever and a day? If so, then maybe tell him, I don't know. But then your relationship will be affected forever.
Maybe I'm cold but I would just not be willing to put myself in the situation where I have to justify a decision (if it came to that) or hurt someone when there's no need.
I don't know what to say tiddler, I probably come across as quite unfeeling but I just think that you're going to feel guilty and sh1t about the whole thing anyway so why make yourself feel worse by telling him? It's just something else on the plate that really doesn't need to be there.
I don't think I could personally have an abortion but I do believe in a woman's right to choose. If you really don't want the baby then book your termination ASAP. Rightly or wrongly the father of the baby has no right or say in the matter. If he was a long term boyfriend then I believe morally he would have a right to know-as he was only a one night stand then he would probably be relieved that he doesn't have a lifetime of maintenance payments to deal with. I still wouldn't tell him though.
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