Friends just when you need them most!

[unrulyjulie]

Yesterday a friend did something for me that took my breath away. I was amazed by her kindness and generosity, i can't even put into words how she made me feel.

I also have another friend who has helped me enourmously and i don't think they realise quite how much i appreciate them! :-) so to them, I thank you!


What is the nicest thing a friend has done for you, maybe something that was totally unexpected or just something simple that has stayed with you?

What would life be like without those special friends to share our life with ? Not much fun i guess.

Do you have many close friends or just one special one and lots of pals? Maybe none at all because you don't feel you need them?

I just want to say, in the last few weeks i have found that i am an incredibly lucky lady with the friends who have chosen me! :-)

[4getmenot]

I tend to be the one thats helps my mates out. Dont get me wrong if I was really really down they'd come cheer me up in a second but I tend not to get that upset. I always seem to think that I cant moan about the little things when my mates have had worse lives than me. I like to buy funny little presents that will make them laugh. My mate broke up with her bloke so I text her to tell her I had something to cheer her up she said she was intrigued so I said well its long and hard and you'll never need a man again. When she opened present she found I'd bought her a leather hole puncher to put holes in her belts with :-)

[spanner7853]

I used to have lots of friends but over the years things like when your parents die and go to hospital for whatever reason brings out your true friends. I lost a baby 2 years ago and my so called best friend took 3 weeks to ring me and see how I was only to find out she had been seeing my ex-husband while I was in hospital. I didn't care that she had slept with him just the sheer fact that she proved that she was no friend of mine by not supporting me when I needed someone. On top of that though I have 2 very special friends that I have known for 17 years or more and like them I am always there for them like they are for me.

[Reverandfunk]

I think you are very lucky to know me lol

[4getmenot]

And in answer to your other bit I have lots of mates blokes and girls, but I go to different ones for different things like one to be deep, one to vent my anger about others (because she lives far away), one that makes me laugh, one I like to shop with and all of them to go out on p1ss with :-)

[4getmenot]

oh yer and one to e-mail rev :-)

[China Doll]

Nicest thing - Too many to count.

I would have no life without my friends. At least not one worth living.

Loads and loads of friends and people I know. Only five of them are what I would consider 'best' friends.

Nice post.

[4getmenot]

thats horrible spanner. my best friend from school let me down when she started going out with my brother, she lived quite far away and when she visited him she didnt even come to see me. And when they broke up she kept coming to stay with me to get in his face. I saw how selfish she was when she made a big show at my birthday party, I then didnt ring to see how she was and she had a go at me not seeing how she was even though she'd tried ruining my bday. Havent spoken to her since.

[raysparx1]

Hello Julie, well I think that for you to have real good friends, they must also think you are a real good friend, my best mate a few years back came to visit and stayed for a week or so, a bank statement came in and he must have seen the look on my face when I opened it, it was at the time june had cancer, so i wasn't working much and my overdraft was mounting up, he asked what was wrong, i said nothing all was well, that night he said to me, look I have �50,000 in the bank, have it and pay your mortgage off and enjoy the rest,
He left a cheque for that amount, but I never cashed it, but I will never forget how humble it made me feel, we got over our money worries ourselves,
But you are so right ,at low times and when you least expect it true friends are there, it does not have to be money help either, just somebody to listen and offer a word of advice when you aren't sure which way to turn is just as important.

[4getmenot]

I also think you dont have to spend all your time with them. Some of my closest friends are ones that have grown moved away but we always come back to eachother. My best friend now got a bloke when she was young and didnt really speak to me much, I saw her crying one night at side of the road and even though we hadnt spoken to her for while I stopped and said get in you numpty :-) I think as you get older though you realise friends are very important

[tiny e.a]

I have 4 very close friends, 4 close friends but not in the same league as the first 4 though we can depend on eachother, and the rest are just pals.

A fairly recent gesture that really sticks in my mind because it really touched me was about 18 months ago, I was on the dole, couldn't afford to go out but was getting severe cabin fever doing nothing all the time, I had been turned down for a few jobs and was generally feeling very sorry for myself, isolated and bored. My friend turned up at my house with a bag of bread, butter, milk, cheese, 2 tins of baked beans and 20 cigarettes (trying to kill me the b!tch!) and told me I could now go with her to the pub for a couple as I didn't have to worry about my groceries. It was very simple and quite silly but it made me so glad I was lucky enough to have her as a friend.

[Reverandfunk]

Unruly I'm just on my way up the 69 put the kettle on

[mccfluff]

i have lots of friends only a few close ones's though, a bit like 4get i tend to be the one people go to rather than the other way round. currently i am putting up a mate who has split up with his gf and basically made homeless as a result

[4getmenot]

I do have a necklace of my mate that I wear all the time that says on the it 'A best friend is like a four leaf clover, hard to find and lucky to have'

[johnlambert]

My friends come just after family, in some cases before family, so i tend to go for quality rather than quantity. I have had one particular friend for over 25 years, we served togther in some unpleasant places around the world. He is godfather to my kids, as I am to his (my godsons and daughter are now well into their 20's). Not all my friends are in the real world, I also have cyber friends on "facebook" and "myspace", I still consider them to be as much friends as my real life mates.

[Pirate1]

I only have one friend. Yes just one friend! Unfortunately I have only recently escaped a very bad marriage during which no one could come to my house and I couldn't go out. This made friendship really difficult and from the mums at school this was the only friend that could cope with this situation. She was there for me at the school gates and on the phone for me all the time. She was also the reason I found the strength to run away, together with my teenage children and helped us set up on our own. It was a very traumatic time and now life is beginning to get normal. She drags me out for a drink and is still there for me. Without her I would still be living scared and who knows what would have happened. I wish I had more friends but after years of isolation I find this very difficult but maybe slowly I might.

[johnlambert]

Pirate1
We're all your friends on here

[Pirate1]

You just made me cry!

[johnlambert]

sorry
and sorry for hijacking your thread julie, (are we still mates)?

[spanner7853]

there are some lovely people on here. Johnlambert I hope your married if not I have a queue of women wanting to marry you your lovely.getmenot yet it's horrible but sometimes you have to have these kind of friends to appreciate how sh** they are compared to the special ones. I agree though there are a lot of people on here I'd class as friends and are very supportive and caring. x

[4getmenot]

are you saying I'm ****?