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Rubyrose | 23:19 Sun 17th Jun 2007 | Body & Soul
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Do you think it is easier for a man to get with a woman who already has a child with someone else? Or for a woman to get with a man who already has a child with someone else?

I have a couple of friends who have children or a child and they are no longer with that childs father, and they don't have trouble dating or meeting guys as guys are always very accepting of the fact that they have children and they don't seem to mind at all. I don't have many male friends with kids who aren't with the mother but I always thought it was easier for a girl to meet a guy and have him accept her children than the other way round.

Guys - Have you/ Could you date a woman who already has children and would it bother you at all?
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In an ideal world she will not only have no children, she would be a virgin.

Go out with a single mother, you have to put up with her kids aswell. As I do not particularly like children, I fail to see any relationship forming.

All of these women, whether conscious or not, will be thinking "Is this man suitable father material?".

Besides, I hardly have a rear seat in my car, so stuff 'em.
Hi rubes
Ive dated loads with kids didn't bother me got on with them well so that helped in fact the kids wanted to be with me more than there dads.(I'm not a male tart when i said loads)
As I'm 38 I'm not going to find many females without children.
It wouldn`t bother me, as long as the kids are well behaved and not obnoxious little sh!ts
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I don't know what it is... maybe it's the fact that the woman bears the child and I am trying to be open about this... I always thought I was an open kind of girl but it's bothering me!
I just always thought... if I met a guy... and we fell in love and that... that if we had children... he'd be experiencing it for the first time like me... Not that he'd done it before!
As a woman I find it harder to accept than the men I have seen do it so easily!
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Leg-end - That's what my mate just said (3Rainbows).. She said the kids normally end up with the mum so it's harder for her...
But my 2 friends who were single with kids, found it easy (in my opinion) to date... Coz the men never seemed to have a problem with it. But I know one of my mates partners was dating a girl who always found it hard to accept!

I always thought I'd be able to easily accept something like that and even though the kid doesn't live with the guy, so it means you wouldn't really have that bigger responsibilty it just makes me think... it's still a huge thing... is it not? I'm so confused!
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I heard a saying once and it went
"No matter what happens, you will always have a special love for the woman who gave birth to your children" .....
And I guess for a woman.. that's hard to compete with!
Mr Pippahad a child when we got together..mind you, I had two!

The fact that he had a child lready made it easier for me. I knew he would realise the commitment involved, and that the kids had to be thought of first. Of course I knew that too, so there wasn't any jealously.

Not sure I agree with your saying, Rubes..Mr P doesn't have that 'special love' for his ex wife, probably because she put him through hell..lol. When I gave birth to our first child together he was overwhelmed because it was the first birth he had seen ~ his wife had a C section under general anaesthetic (her choice) so he missed seeing his first daughter born. It was all new to him :o)
my fiance has 2 children from his previous marriage and they are wonderful little girls and yes they do live with their mum but she is a terrible mother, she has had 2 more children with her new partner and treats my fiance's girls like they dont exsist, the girls are constantly dressed in clothes too small and dirty when we see them for continuous days they have the same dirty knickers on, the children complain that their mum is nasty and only cares about her new children. The only time she is remotely interested my fiance's children is near parent evening so the school dont suss out that she's that terrible. she also gets my fiance's children to look after her 2 new children while she sleeps on the sofa or goes into town which is about 15 minute walk away and the oldest child is only 7.
If you're in a relationship with someone who has kids no matter how good/ bad their other parent is you will always be considered a 2nd dad/ mum to them, i think it's harder considering the relationships they have with their parents rather than men with kids or women with kids
sorry ruby but the saying you quoted is absolute tosh.
i spoke to my exwife 4 weeks ago on the phone.were divorced 10 years.
we havent spoken for about 4 years .
when we did all she did was rant swear and blame me for everything.
a special love ??
not at all.
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Leg-end.... That's good to know... :o)

But surely for the sake of your children there is some kind of love there?
for the sake of the children theres some love for the mother???

thats dafter than your first quote.

not at all.

no love lingering there believe me
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No you fool... I mean, because you love your children then you must care about their mum in someway.. so they are happy... You wouldn't wish her harm would you?
bitch could die tomorrow .
id even send flowers .
once it was verified shed gone .

turned my girls against me .
nothing but hate for her.

i dont forgive easily , if at all.
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Ooookkkk.... *Ruby edges towards the door*
dont confuse real life with sayings and books btw.

real life aint all rosses and mooonlight im afraid
You can love your kids with all your heart and feel nothing but vitriol for their mum or dad..believe me ;o)

Not to say you curse their other parent in earshot ~ I don't do that, and neither does Mr P..but your feelings towards them do change depending on their actions.

My ex could drop down dead tomorrow and I wouldn't give two hoots!
yay pippa lets hire a hitman for a week .
all the abers can chip in and get a cheap deal for bulk order lol
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Oooh I'll take some of that action!... Actually.... I'd do the job for a discounted price! I could use the cash!

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