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Do you think it is possible to fall in love with someone, even if you haven't met them......?
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well i have met men through work, friends in bars etc and some of them have turned out to be married, idiots, violent, general nice people. I have met a few people on the ineternet - some are nice - some are odd - some are boring etc.
i met my boyf now on the interent and i just knew he was different - i cant explain why i knew but i did. We spoke for 8 weeks on the phone and arranged to meet (he lives i Lodon i'm in Bristol) he came down for the day and we had lunch out etc and then he just kept coming back!! LOL!! I knew the first tim ei spoke to him...(for SIX hours!!) That COULD fall in love with him...and i did!
Go for it - nothing to lose - just be safe etc...public places...dont gve him your address etc....dont go for 'a walk' with him at first, avoid places that could be quiet etc and have fun!
i met my boyf now on the interent and i just knew he was different - i cant explain why i knew but i did. We spoke for 8 weeks on the phone and arranged to meet (he lives i Lodon i'm in Bristol) he came down for the day and we had lunch out etc and then he just kept coming back!! LOL!! I knew the first tim ei spoke to him...(for SIX hours!!) That COULD fall in love with him...and i did!
Go for it - nothing to lose - just be safe etc...public places...dont gve him your address etc....dont go for 'a walk' with him at first, avoid places that could be quiet etc and have fun!
I can tell you from personal experience, Angel, that yes it actually does happen. I fell in love with a lady on-line. We corresponded romantically and eventually met up and went on to greater things. It's happened in history too. The written word can express more about a person than a physical meeting can. And then there are documented cases of British women writing to (and actually falling in love with!) American Death Row prisoners whom they have never actually met. So to answer your question, yes.
Ok, I haven't read the answers.. I will answer first and then read them.. but I think you base the whole relationship on a fantasy! I think you chat to someone, see pics, think you get to know them, think you know the real them... but it is all a fantasy. I don't mean it's not real but you great a version of that person in your mind.. a version that more than likely doesn't exist and the reality of the situation would be very very different!
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I just read some of the answers... not all as some people just ramble.. Lol.. I didn't realise you were asking coz you had met someone online.. I thought it was a general Q.. all I will say is 'be careful' and I know you are thinking you are but it has happened a million times over that someone thinks they are being careful and think they know the other person and think they could love them and then the illusion all gets shattered by reality!
You say you won't let yourself get hurt again but I'm afraid that isn't your choice to make... unless you spend the rest of your life as a closed off lonely person! You can't get hurt if you don't fall in love eh? But it sure is lonely if you don't!
This could be a completely genuine guy who really does feel this way about you.. but even if he does, you may not feel the same about him when you meet. I know where you are coming from.. I really do.. you meet someone.. you click... you share your most inner thoughts and secrets and you think 'Wow.. he knows all this about me and he is still here'.. Truth of the matter is... he is still there because of the convenience of the net... he can pick this relationship up as and when he likes... like you can.
Andy is right... you have your personal space. This person doesn't fit into your real life coz they are based solely on technology so if you don't have time to switch on the PC... they must wait! Sometimes it works out... sometimes people meet and it doesn't change the fact that they are still mad about eachother.... but I just think we aren't built that way... yes you meet someone, connect, get on well.. think there is a possibility.. but we are built to base our instincts on something you can see and feel and touch... we judge people on reactions and expression and body language... so regardless of the fact that you think he is being 100% honest.... he may not be... and I just want you to be prepared for
I just read some of the answers... not all as some people just ramble.. Lol.. I didn't realise you were asking coz you had met someone online.. I thought it was a general Q.. all I will say is 'be careful' and I know you are thinking you are but it has happened a million times over that someone thinks they are being careful and think they know the other person and think they could love them and then the illusion all gets shattered by reality!
You say you won't let yourself get hurt again but I'm afraid that isn't your choice to make... unless you spend the rest of your life as a closed off lonely person! You can't get hurt if you don't fall in love eh? But it sure is lonely if you don't!
This could be a completely genuine guy who really does feel this way about you.. but even if he does, you may not feel the same about him when you meet. I know where you are coming from.. I really do.. you meet someone.. you click... you share your most inner thoughts and secrets and you think 'Wow.. he knows all this about me and he is still here'.. Truth of the matter is... he is still there because of the convenience of the net... he can pick this relationship up as and when he likes... like you can.
Andy is right... you have your personal space. This person doesn't fit into your real life coz they are based solely on technology so if you don't have time to switch on the PC... they must wait! Sometimes it works out... sometimes people meet and it doesn't change the fact that they are still mad about eachother.... but I just think we aren't built that way... yes you meet someone, connect, get on well.. think there is a possibility.. but we are built to base our instincts on something you can see and feel and touch... we judge people on reactions and expression and body language... so regardless of the fact that you think he is being 100% honest.... he may not be... and I just want you to be prepared for
Jeeez is this question still running and what a comprehencive
(you know what I mean) answer by rubyrose. i do know where you are coming from ruby and what you said is perfectly right but sometimes it can work, and do also know how very wary that you must be about meeting people on the net.
As I said on here earlier me and my g/f met on dating direct and had loads of women to choose from but for some reason I was attracted to her just over the web, we talked on there a lot and sent e mails and pics etc, etc and after 6 weeks we met up and finnaly met her and must admit first inpresions when I met her at the station where o my god she looks old (even though she is 6 years younger than me) but we got on like a house on fire.
So when the pub called last orders please I realised that I had missed my last train home,so said to karen O poop have just missed me last train home can I sleep on you sofa please and her replie was NO so I thought that I was in trouble then she said you are sleeping in my bed tonight.
And the rest is history we are living together in my place now and getting married next year
(you know what I mean) answer by rubyrose. i do know where you are coming from ruby and what you said is perfectly right but sometimes it can work, and do also know how very wary that you must be about meeting people on the net.
As I said on here earlier me and my g/f met on dating direct and had loads of women to choose from but for some reason I was attracted to her just over the web, we talked on there a lot and sent e mails and pics etc, etc and after 6 weeks we met up and finnaly met her and must admit first inpresions when I met her at the station where o my god she looks old (even though she is 6 years younger than me) but we got on like a house on fire.
So when the pub called last orders please I realised that I had missed my last train home,so said to karen O poop have just missed me last train home can I sleep on you sofa please and her replie was NO so I thought that I was in trouble then she said you are sleeping in my bed tonight.
And the rest is history we are living together in my place now and getting married next year
K9 - thats sweet.... I don't disagree that it works out... My auntie has dated guys she met online... 3 or 4 but just coz they didn't work out, it doesn't mean it was coz they were online... it was coz they just didn't click in the end.. as what happens with normal relationships... one guy she was with for a year... they are still friends. But I think there is a big difference from meeting someone on a dating site from meeting someone on AB. I know a few people who have been fooled on AB by people.. I mean big time fooled as well... to the point of 'I love you's'!!!
It just goes back to what I said about not being able to read people's body languages and no matter how much you believe someone or whatever they tell you.... you are basing it solely on what they say as you have no other reference!
It just goes back to what I said about not being able to read people's body languages and no matter how much you believe someone or whatever they tell you.... you are basing it solely on what they say as you have no other reference!
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I started to read some of the answers then I realised ABers can be a very cynical bunch!!!
I met my bloke through a wrong number!!
Basically I text someone and sent it to him by mistake. Anyway he replied and we got chatting. We txt for a few days then he phoned me. That first call I was talking to him for 1 hour and It felt like the most natural thing in the world, no awkward silences and he genuinely made me laugh.
It was two months before we met in person and I must say I knew I loved him I met him... (sounds like a very cheesy Savage Garden Sound I know, But its true). He is my best friend. In the end I moved over 100 miles to be with him, and that was five years ago. We are about to celebrate our 1st Wedding Anniversary and have First baby on the way.
So in answer to your question Angel, Yes I KNOW it is possible and good luck.
Oh, be careful though, I do realise I have been extremely lucky!!!
I met my bloke through a wrong number!!
Basically I text someone and sent it to him by mistake. Anyway he replied and we got chatting. We txt for a few days then he phoned me. That first call I was talking to him for 1 hour and It felt like the most natural thing in the world, no awkward silences and he genuinely made me laugh.
It was two months before we met in person and I must say I knew I loved him I met him... (sounds like a very cheesy Savage Garden Sound I know, But its true). He is my best friend. In the end I moved over 100 miles to be with him, and that was five years ago. We are about to celebrate our 1st Wedding Anniversary and have First baby on the way.
So in answer to your question Angel, Yes I KNOW it is possible and good luck.
Oh, be careful though, I do realise I have been extremely lucky!!!
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