Oh my word..do I or don'ti..?

[Xenon101]

I am a very sensitive guy. I have avoided so many relationships cos I wasn't sure, and I was waiting for the right one....low and behold I've fallen for a great girl. pretty, great conversation, kisses, likes me.......but......she is with someone who i respect, and don't want to upset. If she came with me, i'm pretty sure it'll go wrong and she'd hate me for ever more...she already said if we met before she met the guy we'd be superb... "I LOVE HER!" What do I do..?

[katangel26]

You do nothing. Yes you have feelings for her but they might be stronger because you know she is unavailable. As you say you respect the person she's with, so if you did ever get together there'd be pressures and things to deal with there that there wouldn't be with a normal relationship thats just starting out. If she feels the same she'll leave who she's with and give it a go with you. Hope it works out x

[larkin]

kisses ? Kisses how ? cheeks, lips ?
If latter, what has led to this and how serious is it ?

[Xenon101]

Thankyou, but I've been in similar situations, and not bothered but I'm 33 and never felt so strongly with someone. Gonna make a fool of myself I know.....she has admitted though that she finds me really attractive..

[Xenon101]

I know it's really uncool for a guy to talk about feelings but it's first time in 33 years i've felt like this?????????

[larkin]

woaaah steady, dont be to negative at this stage.

[Xenon101]

Why.? She loves the other guy but says she loves me too.... I promise you, I've had loads of one night stands and strill have never felt this way.

[RATTER15]

Xenon101, nothing wrong with a guy talking about his feelings, your a better man because of it, it means that you aren't tied down to all this old Mach Cr@p and can speak freely.

[Xenon101]

Thankyou ratter but in my world you don't talk about such things. I'm intelligent, earn money, sensitive, good listener, generous....modest (sort of)...and still don't get the one i want...!!!

[RATTER15]

Xenon, may I ask your age, you are sounding very much like you are over the hill and giving up on life??

You may not get this girl but don't give up hope, lots out there and you will find one when you are least expecting it!!

[katangel26]

Sorry Xenon but thats life! We're told that things come to those who wait!

[StewyGriffin]

You state she is with someone "you respect" Then stay away until she decides what she wants. I can understand your feelings for her and need to be with her. But if she cheats on him with you, could you ever truly trust her not to do the same to you?

If the lady in question knows how you feel, give her room and let her decide the next move without the added pressure.

I hope this situation has a positive outcome for you. :-)

Stewy.

[dilf]

pop round whilst he's at work give her loads of that soppy flannel- give her the message , pour out your feelings for her and then harden to her feminine charms and insist she forgets about you. and ask her not to say a dickie bird. then revert back to your previous friendly ways and lighten her mood with a playful slap on the behind and say a jocular "go and make the tea doll"

DONT wear cufflinks [specially not with your initials on] for obvious reasons