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Hi there. I've just started seeing a guy at uni who im really into. I just have two problems. One is that as im very inexpereinced I dnt really know what pleasures a guy in bed. I don't know where to start and Im concerned it'll put him off. Im completely ready and everything so its nothing to do with nerves, i just genuinly dont really know what to do. The other problem is (and i know it sounds pathetic) that his pulls are sooo slobbery that i dont actually enjoy it. I love just kissing him but as soon as tongues come into play practically my whole face is covered in his slobber. I dont want something so trivial to come between us but i really dont know what to do. Any help would be so appreciated. x

[yolande]

With regard to the slobbery kissing, try kissing him gently and saying how much you like it like that. It might work, I hope so! With the experience thing, it all depends on the man, so you need to find out what he likes. You can do this either by asking him softly or by seeing his reaction!

[cascarelli]

You dont really know what pleasures a guy in bed? Just start at the top and work down

[MiniN]

Just tell him what things he does when he's kissing that you enjoy. focus on the positive rather than the negative- it works!

also dont worry about experience, everyone starts off that way. if he knows the truth then he wont expect you to be citing the karma sutra off by heart,will he? takes things slow, and it'll all happen naturally. we'v all been there!

[Rock'n'Roll]

I'm guessing if he's at uni ,then his experience is limited also. Just take it as it comes, you'll enjoy discovering what make you both tick. Different people,different likes and dislikes. There are no hard and fast rules.

[Champagne]

I slept with 1,000 men to gain the experience I hold to date.... but that's probably not for everybody.

*ahem*

Seriously though, iIf you want to gain experience in how to pleasure your partner then there are plenty of books available on the subject. A lot of them are fairly easy going too, so you don't feel like you're studying for a degree!

With regard to the kissing, just tell him. You'll probably also find in time that if you tell your partner you like a particular intimate thing he does, e.g. gently rubbing your earlobe, then he'll always do it until it eventually becomes annoying!!! So you're going to have to learn how to tell people when you don't enjoy something. It's up to you how tactful or blunt you want to be about it.