boyfriend situation-new development, im so hurt.

SizzleSquid | 15:09 Fri 12th May 2006 | Body & Soul

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he went mad at me last night, said i don't listen to him, because i took a call in his flat, and that im childish (because i like going out, having fun, doing stuff instead of being boring and sitting on the couch) he has only allowed me to see him once a week for 7 years on the same night and time, im not allowed to wear a skirt (even though its summer) even a long skirt, im not allowed to make or recieve calls from his house just to update.

He made me cry so much last night i thought i was going too collapse, after 7 years you would cry wouldn't you? Guess what? He told me to get it together! and to be quiet. Im so upset. He said he'd give me one more chance based that i listen to him, dont use phone, wear skirt and give good conversation. Im so upset. I really love him, but i feel hard done by.

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Octavius

Time to end it and leave perhaps?

fayelc123

this is a joke!?

You have seriously put up with that for 7 years???

flipflop104

How can you love a control freak like that?? - ditch him and get someone who'll treat you with respect and love you the way someone in an adult relationship should do.

purplehair

Dump him! He sounds like hes way too controlling

purpose

This may sound strange, but do you have a D/s relationship?

Octavius

I hadn�t quite finished. It sounds like your bf wants to control you and this is just unacceptable. There are plenty of gentlemen out there (not me, I�m married!) who would appreciate a girl who wants to live a little and dress to make her feel good about herself. Don�t be held back by this childish person, if what you say is true (it is only half a story after all) then you deserve much better. I can�t believe you have been complacent enough to accept this for 7 years.

stylinsam

get out of there chicken you have got more self respect than to let this guy look down on you like you are a piece of sh1t on the bottom of his shoe.

tell him if u want to wear a skirt because its warm, tell him you will make and recieve calls at his house and if he as another go at you and does the same you no how much he really loves u. hes walking all over you sweetie. u need to get out of there i no its hard as youve been together 4 so long but do u really wanna go the rest of your life being treated this way by the guy who is supposed to love and care for u.

good luck

SSx

raysparx

hello sizzle, You may love him,doesn't sound to me like he loves you, he seems as if he just wants to control you, he must be very insecure, I think you should give him an ultimatum,that if he can't respect you and your opinions,you will be the one leaving,in fact maybe he doesn't even deserve that chance, there are plenty of nice blokes out there , I know after 7 years it won't be easy but you are in a rut and need to make some tough choices, if you don't get a bit stronger he will dictate your life, don't let him.

You are worth a lot more than that, Good luck whatever you decide,take care, Ray xx

peterd

Why does he let you in his flat ?

beryllium

What is wrong with you? you dont even live with him. No man should ever make you cry, unless of course you're burying them!!!

say bye bye ******, and then send him this...

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kazzianne

I thought that this was a total wind up - but ive got a horrid feeling that you're being serious.ARE YOU NUTS????? TELL HIM TO F*** OFF!!

SizzleSquid

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it was so cruel, and over the phone too, im all over the place at the moment.

raysparx

I like your style bery!!! short but to the point,I was typing with one finger for 5 minutes.

country_boy

Get out and don't look back! Don't be a doormat for anyone. After 7 years it doesn't sound like he's planning to take the relationship any further if he still only wants you one night a week. Life is too short to waste it on that idiot.

Drusilla1S

Love is a very strange thing, but your boyfriend is a control freak, which is fine if you have a relationship like Maggie Gyllenhall in The Secretary.

However, if your looking for the type of relationship that most people consider loving; which includes, passion, consideration, affection, thoughtfulness, sex, conversation, shared experiences and trust, you need to start running now and look elsewhere.

There are many men who would love to have such a loyal, gentle and caring person as a partner, please don't waste your fine qualities on an unappreciative loser of a human being.

~Wingnut~

I'm with everyone else here Sizzle, get the hell out of there and away from him now! Do you seriously want to live your life like this? If after 7 years he only lets you in to see him once a week, same night and time (sounds a bit fishy to me) where will you be in 5 years time? (apart from wasting 12 years of your life with him in my opinion) Can you really see yourself with him after all that time? What if you married him? How would he change? If you feel hard done by now how will you feel by then?
For him to make you cry to the point of collapse and then tell you to get it together, doesn't sound like love one bit!

Get out and be with someone who is going to treat you like you should be treated, not used and controlled.

All the best :o)

SizzleSquid

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what is a D/s relationship @purpose?

Thanks for all the advice guys, u kinda helping me to open my eyes. I still am pulled in both directions though, he's always comparing me to this colleauge of his and she texes him at work to buy her sweets. ( don't ask me why) My eyes are still hurting from last night, my gosh..Im

Aprilis

I stand by what I said last time SizzleSquid. Dump him, he's a control freak. On his say so he spends a tiny percentage of his time with you and even that seems to be spent criticising you. What makes him so superior to you? Get shot of him love, you can do far better I'm sure. Whatever way you look at this you are obviousy incompatible. Find someone who makes you happy and wants you for who you are. After 7 years of putting up with this you have given him the message that you are willing to be treated this way. I reckon it's time to stop and rebuild your self esteem honey.