dreams

[rugeleyboy]

wher can i find out what a dream i keep having means?

[eash]

www.dreammoods.com

[SizzleSquid]

What was your dream?

[rugeleyboy]

i lost a very close friend a few years ago, i dream about him a lot.........

there have been times where we are joking about and i wake up laughing, or sometimes i dream about him coming back from holiday or somewhere new (not death) and sometimes i dream i am talking to his family and they wont tell me where he is, its like he has gone into hiding or something........

but the thing i want to know is, i can never hear his voice???

[jules1968]

RB, i lost my dad 20 years ago and for a long long time, up untill about 5 years ago i had dreams like this. They seemed so real and when i woke up i believed my dad was still alive and didn't want to come round from that semi dream state. Do you get what i mean? If i woke up, then my dad would be dead again! I think this friend is very much on your mind, and it is difficult for you to let go! perfectly normal i would say.

[rugeleyboy]

perfect answer jules, that exactley how it is!

[jules1968]

not being able to hear his voice is like your conscious telling you he's not really there. I used to have to phone my dad but found it impossible to dial the correct number,(or similar) him just being that bit too far out of reach. its a similar thing i guess.Have you been having these dreams since his death or have they started recently?

[SizzleSquid]

Rugeleyboy..I am a spiritual (but Christian) person and think his soul is reaching out to you, to let you know that he still thinks of you and that he is ok, like saying Hi. He probably remembers the times you had together and is reminding you about them.

Your unconcious knows that your friend is no longer alive which is why you cant hear his voice, and when his family are not knowing where he is this is a symptom of your grief, wether past or present reminding you that you have no way of contacting him again because of his death. I feel your friends passing affected you more than you realised, and thoughts, subconcsious or not about him are presenting as dreams of him. It is a mixture of your own subconcious and your friend visiting you through your dreams, his way and maybe only way of interacting with you! Talk it over with someone and see how it goes x

[rugeleyboy]

jules, i have has them since the accident 5 years ago, both of us bikers, fate played a part in not letting me see him die, i turned around and went home 25minutes before he died, i went home to have lunch with my dad.

the last thing i said to him was "you will be you w*nker!!" regarding him being my best man?

sizzlesquid, thank you, i find great comfort in what you say also!!

we were best friends for 20 years and i still have not found comfort siince the accident, although i am very thankful and love my children dearly!!

[jules1968]

RB, you can't expect to get over this quicky, 5 years is nothing and the whole situation is bound to play on your mind. Although you cope with life when awake, it comes to you in your sleep. There is obviously a lot of thoughts going on in your head. Whenever anyone dies, we always feel a certain amount of guilt. I certanly did. Could I have done more, could i have said more when they were alive, could i have prevented it happening, if onlys.....I don't know if you think along these lines, but if you do, thats maybe whats causing these dreams. Take comfort in this, you had a great friend for 20 years of your life, he touched your life in a way no other friend probably will,you were lucky to have known him as he was you!. It will get easier as the years pass but it will never go away.I'm sure he is watching over you and your precious family, keeping you all safe! from my heart RB, i hope you're pain will ease soon. X