broken heart

[rowie]

what the hell do I do? When does it stop hurting?

[little coojy]

so sorry rowie, how has your heart been broken? hearts do heal but it takes time and theres no time scale on this everyones differant, but it does help to talk and talk and talk, true friends won't worry about you reapting your self over and over, or you could try writing your feelings down everytime you have a low, best to get it all out dont keep it in, love and hugs to you x

[rowie]

He said he loved me and couldn't wait to be with me forever, moved 120 miles to be nearer to him, then he suddenly decides he can't make any changes in his lifestyle for me, has to concentrate on his career (like I don't have one!) and I suspect he was seeing someone else

[dorindarasbe]

Hi rowie, you poor thing I am deeply upset for you. Just think that everybody has had their heart broken at sometime or another and they are still here, it may sound harsh but that is a fact of life I am afraid to say. Like little coojy said everybody heals differently so there isn't a time scale that can be put on this. I know this is different a bit but I lost my 22 week old son in 2002 and my heart was well and truely broken but time is a healer and it does get easier. Cry as much as you will let yourself because bottling it up will only take longer for the healing process to start. Good luck and I am thinking of you. xxx

[dmaxxx]

im going through the very same pain just now....i try think of all the dirt she done on me,all the times she lied and cheated....that still doesnt really help a u cant take away ur love over night.keep busy ie gym helps me! ive no one really to talk to so if uve got good strong family circle and friends i would talk with them and dont be afraid to cry..get it all out...i feel suicidal at times but i know it will go away,,only a question of how long do i have to go through this nightmare...also im gona log onto loopylove dating and get myself som1 new even if only casual as i feel that will take my mind of the past....good luck

[little coojy]

what a b******d,

he doesn't deserve your love, rise above him and let him see what he's missing out on and that he's lost a diamond, i know its always said but there are nice ones out there that would treat you like you should be i was told this after my marrige broke down, i didn't want another one ever, but in time the man of my dreams found me. it's hard but you have to get out there and on with your life, don't let a s**t like this hold you back, get on with your career, could you move back, or else where, if he was cheating on you he would only do it again if you had him back, respect your self and don't entertain anyone who doesn't, be strong and brave girl, get your lippy on and go have some fun lifes to short to worry about self centred pigs like him. xx

[rugeleyboy]

this is probably everyones story:

but a few years back i was deeply in love with a girl and came home from work to be told she was sh*ggin someone else, it was like someone threw me off a cliff!

i thought that the pain would last forever but it didnt, i am know married to the most pointless, erm, i mean perfect person ever with 2 of the most beautiful kids you ever did see!!

the moral of the story, everything happens for a reason, she was unfaithful,i left, i met future wife and know i realise what true happiness is!!

good luck

[little coojy]

we love you rowie, chat to us we care x

[electricblue]

It'll feel like you can't live without him,and your heart will never heal,it will,it'll take time but it will get better and you will be stronger,and one day you will wake up and the pain will be gone,i promise!

[rowie]

thank you all soo much, you habe all been lovely,esp you little coojy, wish I was as wise. It just hurts so bad as I thiugh he was the one and I made so many sacrifices, funny when I lived far away he could stop himself from phoning all of the times, and visiting, then wehn I get closer it all stops and suddenly everything else is so much more important than me!

[electricblue]

Games or he's scared but whichever you deserve better.

[little coojy]

nothing is more important than you and dont forget it.xx

[Dreaming]

My long term relationship ended very recently, as he too wanted to put his career, among other things first. At first I was very very upset, but now, 2 months on, I feel indifferent. If I start get sentimenal, then I turn it around. You deserve so much better rowie I am sorry you feel so sad now. But I agree with electricblue.

good luck xx

[rowie]

He told me to leave him alone, I swear I haven't been some kind of stalker, I honestly sent only two text messages telling how angry I was and that I deserve better, but he made me feel like some kind of bunny boiler when I have so much more dignity than that!

[little coojy]

tell him to get over his self, he's a right d**k

[rugeleyboy]

unfortunatly, embaresment comes with a break up, you end up doing things you shouldn't.

you will look back and cringe at some of the things your are about to do?

[WiccanKitten]

Love leaves scars. Its terrible but its true.
I hate it when people say how wonderful love is, because its not!!! Love is raw, and real, it hurts, it cries and it bleeds. Loving snybody is the only real way you can get hurt.
Its lethal stuff, and its addictive.
(Thats proven by the way - your body can get addicted to the chemicals your body produces when in love - so break ups can be like cold turkey for the most extreme heroine addict in the world.)

It'll never go away honey, I'm sorry to say. But it'll get easier. I feel desperately sorry for you, and i seriously hope things start looking up for you soon.

I remember when i got hurt, all of these people kept telling me to 'get out of bed', 'keep busy', 'eat something' and 'stop moping', but in truth, the best thing i did was to get over ithe worst of it in my own time. Its all you can do.
xxx

[Minxie]

Be strong rowie, when my ex long term partner ended our relationship. I was angry too, and sent him a few(!) texts. He made me then feel like I was the one in the wrong. Delete his number. Dont give him the satisfaction of knowing you are hurting. Its hard. Talk to all the others lovely AB people here. They helped me a lot when I was feeling really low. x

[little coojy]

delete his number, when tempted do some sit ups or somthing go for a run, have a nice bubble bath anything but dont contact him, your only regret it the next day. each day will get easier one day you might not even remember his name lol, remember chin up shoulders back head high and wiggle that arse.

[WiccanKitten]

Nice one Coojy - you're good at this! Poor Rowie. Coojy is right, the guy isn't worth your time, love or effort.

[rowie]

I have deleted his number now.Thank you all for being so caring