Is It Normal To Feel Like This?

[abbeyleigh]

At this moment I feel like I have nothing going for me like I'm 31 single living at home about loose my job all my friends have partners so I'm not out much. I'm considering getting anti depression meds.

[Bobbisox1]

You appeared before to have an active social life ?

[abbeyleigh]

Not anymore

[Bobbisox1]

Why?
All those images of what to wear, what went wrong?

[lankeela]

Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Do something useful with your life - start by holding on to a job and not blaming everyone else for your problems. You are young and healthy whereas some people would give their right arm to be in your shoes.

[Karamia]

I would recommend watching BBC iplayer TV programme Christine McGuinness: Unmasking my Autism.
See if anything resonates with how you might be feeling. We as a family have a few friends who are girls in 20s / 30s with undiagnosed autism and this programme highlighted many of their shared experiences. It may or may not help but just might be worth watching anyway. She finds relationships with female friends tricky and also romantic relationships. Hope this helps xx

[elliemay1]

Don't give in to meds yet, try to get some exercise and see if that helps, maybe start with half an hour walk daily and gradually increase

[Old_Geezer]

It depends. It ain't that unusual, but there again, not all of life is down, it has upsides too.

Being in a relationship is nice, but so is the freedom to do what you want. The grass always seems greener on the other side ?

Jobs come and jobs go; when one chapter ends it becomes the start of something new. That may be difficult to see presently, as feeling the loss is easier than acknowledging the opportunities.

Make an effort to meet others, it can lift your mood. See friends at the pub. Join a club on something that interests you. That sort of thing.

Remember that everything in existence is change, so this will pass. Do what you can to find that which is worthwhile in the present moment and appreciate it.

Good luck.

[KristalBee]

Abbey, what’s happened to your social life? Are you ok?

[cashier]

Unless youhave a very lax doctor you can't just get anti depressants. You do need to see a doctor and you will be told to go for walks, get enough sleep etc. i thought you had your own flat.

[lankeela]

Oh hell don't put ideas in her head.

[abbeyleigh]

No I never had my own flat but want to

[ladybirder]

Why don't you do some volunteering work? For something you are interested in. Helping in a shop or dog walking, just a couple of suggestions.

[KristalBee]

Abbey go talk to your GP. Anti depressants may help you get over the present feelings but hopefully you will be offered some counselling, maybe an online cbt course.

[abbeyleigh]

I always do dog walking

[ladybirder]

Good, that's really good. Do you do it every day?

[abbeyleigh]

In my free time

[Arksided]

from a blokes perspective we all feel a little down sometimes, but we all enjoy a pretty smile.

... unless you're a moose then we start hiding

[Atheist]

AB has quite a lot of old people, and some not so old, and many are sympathetic and try to be friendly to posters here. Some of the old are a bit unsympathetic and some are the opposite. If you post here and get some kind of understanding and advice, then I hope that helps. I'm old and male and fairly non-judgmental and, although not wise, I try to be positive. You are much younger than me and have lots of life left for you to enjoy. Does 'living at home' mean living with your parents? Do you think that all your friends have partners because they are more attractive/sexy than you? When I was young I never had loads of friends, but eventually I found someone who could get on with me. Try to be positive and not to feel a failure. Do you have any interests that don't involve anyone else? Perhaps you are creative and could write or paint something? Why not post a written description of your situation - your family - your ambitions (we all have some ambition) - your hopes for the future. Look ahead and share your dream.

[Hazlinny]

Abbey/ I used to try to give you advice but I stopped because the same old "moans" cropped up over and over again. You do seem to have a problem with the countless jobs you have held - sometimes, I feel that you have a problem with management? From what you have said previously, you seem to be an attractive 31 year old and, as such, should have the world at your feet - if your friends really care for you, I'm sure they wouldn't mind you tagging along with them on the occasional night out. I really feel your circumstances don't qualify for the need for anti-depressants. Do you swim/ do gym activities - leisure centres are great places to meet people of all ages.
Best Wishes. x

[Barsel]

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