Dilemma No 2

[emmie]

I have been invited to a friends for Christmas day, which is nice
but not sure whether to go. She has a nightmare of a staircase where
there is the loo, no downstairs one... not only that she wants me
to bring along two folding chairs because they don't have enough.
will have to go by taxi and worried the driver will not carry them up and down
stairs for me.
what do i do, go or be alone Christmas Day..

[emmie]

family are in crisis of a sort as SIL's brother has had a serious accident recently and not sure if he will make it..
so i am not going to them for Christmas.

[Old_Geezer]

Has to be a personal choice. How are you with just your own company ? Got food in, booze, boxed set ?

[emmie]

plenty to watch on tv, have chocolates i am not fussed about being on my own at all.

[emmie]

not honestly sure what to do..

[davebro]

Don't go - then they will only need one folding chair!

[emmie]

davebro there is that...

[emmie]

it will for a sit down dinner around 5.30 and home by 8.30 ish....

[naomi24]

Only you can decide whether or not the staircase will present a major problem in getting to the loo, but as for the taxi I would ring the company and ask if the driver would be willing to carry the chairs for you.

[emmie]

Naomi yes i would do that, but they don't always remember to put it on the form. Have to make a decision soon as getting the taxi booked for 25th is looming.

[rowanwitch]

You use Addison Lee. Their drivers are mostly helpful, but it sounds like you need convincing to put your own needs first. Do what makes you happy...

[emmie]

Rowan, I am torn both ways, i would use Addison Lee at any rate, as i usually get them to drive me to see family in West Sussex, which is costly but i can't manage bags, trains...

[Bobbisox1]

Just politely decline ,telling her your concerns about the stairs etc Emmie ,and if she’s a good friend she’ll either find a solution to the dilemma or accept that you can’t make it

[woofgang]

Being alone doesn't bother me either. If it was me I would stay home. Do what makes you happy.

[anneasquith]

If the toilet facilities are unsuitable, and you are worried about the folding chairs. Stay at home .

[emmie]

Bobbie, thanks, perhaps if i say she could buy a couple of fold up chairs, i mean they aren't expensive that would be one problem out the way...

[Tilly2]

If it's causing you concern, Emmie, which it is, then tell you friend that you feel unable to make it. Don't fret about it. Just say thank you but no.

[emmie]

i will undoubtedly be drinking, it's my birthday on the day in question, so will need the facilities at some time or other. Blimey O'Reilly didn't think this would be so difficult a decision, hence the question on here

[Tilly2]

I also think that your friend is being thoughtless by expecting you to provide your own chai. You are a guest and you friend should be accommodating you, not vice versa.

[Tilly2]

^ chair!

[Bobbisox1]

And the chairs are her concern Emmie, not yours,offer to lend her them as long as someone can pick them up and return them to you , good luck but I think you know what you would prefer doing