So Upset

[Rockrose]

Dad forgot who I was last night!
He remembered about 5 minutes later, but I am heartbroken

[ummmm]

I'm so sorry. It is heartbreaking xxx

[choux]

Oh dear :( Just a portent of what is to come, Rockrose xx

[Rockrose]

I know and I don't know what to do or how to handle it

[horseshoes]

That's so sad Rockrose. I'm so sorry. x

[Calicogirl]

Oh RR I'm so very sorry :( xxx

[pixie374]

Awww RR, I can only imagine how hurtful that must feel. Sometimes it genuinely is a problem with the right language, rather than literally no recognition of you.
I have seen so many visitors upset be their relatives apparently not knowing who they are/ ignoring/ being hostile/ using the wrong name or relationship... and shortly after they have left, the person says "where has my daughter gone?"... I just wish relatives could see that part too xxx

[Mamyalynne]

It's hard to cope, but cope you will.x

[Rockrose]

Pixie, I talked to him on the phone and he turned to my stepmum and said 'that's a nice lady asking how am I - but who is she' I carried on talking to him and didn't point out it was me - but it was all I could do not to break down there and then.

[Arksided]

I'm sorry for you Rockrose, I can't imagine how that feels but you know you'll have to be strong Xx

[Lie-in King]

((Rockrose)) - it's horrible when it happens & though it doesn't feel like it now, you'll find you're stronger than you know. My very best wishes to you all. x

[pixie374]

I am so sorry, rockrose xx it may well come and go on the surface. Remind him if he doesn't seem to remember... I would say remember that it is never personal, but I'm sure it must feel as though it is. Be strong for him and lots of love xx

[Tilly2]

How awful for you and your stepmum. It's not going to get any easier but you will find it in yourself to cope. It's amazing how strong we can be when the need is there.

[Eleena]

I agree with mamya & Lie in King. Very upsetting none the less. You mourn for the person they were.

[Sqad]

"I talked to him on the phone and he turned to my stepmum and said 'that's a nice lady asking how am I - but who is she' I carried on talking to him and didn't point out it was me"

So you weren't with him and it was not your face he didn't recognise, but your voice and only for 5 mins?
if I have it correctly this is a common occurrence in the elderly and may or may not have any diagnostic or prognostic significance.

[anneasquith]

Rr. He remembered after 5 minutes, make the most of these times.

[calmck]

This was over the phone so unfortunately to be expected. Voice distortion over the phone. Can you “FaceTime” or WhatsApp video. This might help

[Rockrose]

Sqad my father has a terminal brain turmour - does not make it any less upsetting, its more the speed of it - but thank you for your response!

[Rockrose]

annea - its just happened so quickly - I thought I would have more time

[calmck]

Was it night time for him, if I remember correctly one of you are not in UK, could be “sundowning” very common in the elderly and sick. More forgetful at night

[Sqad]

Rockrose......yes, i know his medical history but was just commenting that, although it clearly is upsetting for you, its medical significance may not be as you imagine.