Wedding Planning

[queenofmean]

Eurgh

I had an idea of how I was going to do this and I knew what I wanted and what I didn’t.

Then I nipped to see my Aunty and now my head is like a fireworks display on speed. I’ve bought a book to jot down ideas and plans and all that jazz but I just can’t...I haven’t a clue where to start now.

Sorry had to get that off my chest...does it get easier!?!?

[Tilly2]

Can I suggest that you do what you both want to do rather than what other people want you to do. It's your wedding.

[woofgang]

What Tilly said. Its your wedding not your aunt's. Does it get easier? yes it immediately gets easier if you KEEP IT SIMPLE. I know Iam going to sound lika an old grump but I really hate to hear people say oh we need xxx years to plan the wedding....or we want to et married but we can't afford it. Yes a wedding day should be joyful and lovely but you can do that without military planning or a mega budget.

[queenofmean]

We are going to do what we want to do Tilly, because I don’t have mum to help me I asked my aunt for help and guidance. She mentioned things I didn’t know about or hadn’t considered. I just don’t know how to get what’s in my mind out, and down on paper so it can be considered and planned from there.

We’ve batted ideas about though and we have both agreed on a Reserved Chair for those who should be there but can’t. Only we know and dad knows and I guess you guys too.

I’m a simple girl with semi expensive tastes on a limited budget. I don’t want a lot of fuss and frill and I don’t want minor things being made into major things.

Ah see it’s all coming out now!

[queenofmean]

Didn’t see you sneak in their Woofgang.

[-SharonA-]

My MIL drove me mad with what she thought I should have and do. But I stuck to my guns despite her efforts to railroad everything.
So stick to what you want.

[queenofmean]

That’s not good. All my MIL to be has said is he will need a kilt. I said like h3ll he does. He just doesn’t have the legs for a kilt and he as far as I’m aware he wants a suit. He looks smashing in a suit!

[Rockrose]

My MIL was a nightmare in both her sons weddings even going as far as threatening to object at her eldest sons wedding because she thought his intended was a gold digger and women of loose morals!!
So do what you want and everyone else can go hang

[Calicogirl]

It's exciting, so do allow yourself to get swept along with the fun of it, but don't let yourself get too bogged down in minute nonsense that ten years from now none of you will even remember, or get roped into inviting people you can't stand.
As long as you're marrying the man you love it doesn't matter hat else happens x

[queenofmean]

RR - that is exactly what my mum would say. You have made me smile just by saying that!

I’m trying to Calico. That’s sort of my line of thought too, I couldn’t give a fluff if the chairs are decorated, nobody is going to notice that. I’ve only been to a few weddings and I don’t remember trivial things like that. I want folk to be happy, well fed and having a good time like me and Oh.

[tamborine]

basic wedding:
1. book registrar
2.Book two witnesses & pay Reg office fees £46.
3. all attend reg office by appointment.
4.make vows.
5. Married - Mr & Mrs

[queenofmean]

Long time no see Tambo...hope you are well.

I did suggest that or eloping but I got told no...still an option at the end of the day!

[ducksie]

Don't forget 6. party after - wherever you fancy, dance all night :)

[jno]

we did it the tambo way - about 8 guests (mothers and sisters and a couple of old friends). Of course there's a wedding industry now that didn't exist then, and you're expected to run up bills; but it's your wedding and you don't have to.

[queenofmean]

I know Jno, it’s madness.

I have my pretty dress, I just want a location, good food, happy people and a bit of a do.

I considered having the ceremony in my garden, but I don’t know how well that would go down. All I’d need is to hire chairs and make sure it’s a sunny day!

[tamborine]

am okish, good luck with your wedding x

[queenofmean]

Aww good stuff.

I’ll need it, thank you :) xx

[woofgang]

mine was DIY. My mother made my dress and the bridesmaid's dress, my bouquet, my bridesmaid's basket of flowers and many of the button holes were grown by my Dad, but we had to buy buttonholes for the wedding party. My sister made and iced the cake and we all had a hand in preparing the buffet. I even printed my own invitations. I mean were were lucky to have the skills within the family but when I look at what is seen as essential now, it makes me shudder.

[woofgang]

Queenie, garden marquee?

[queenofmean]

I’m planning to make my cake myself and do the invites and place settings myself I have the skill set to do those and the massive card stock my mum left me with.

My garden isn’t big enough for a marquee sadly and I don’t have vast amount of parking. Otherwise I would do something like that.

[anneasquith]

Does OH have any thoughts ? I have a theory that many men don’t see the point in a “ big wedding “.