Complicated Sex Life

[pumpjack]

ex wife was a model, wife after her was stunning, ive never had a problem with finding / dating woman, though for some years now i find that i go off sex with same person very quickly.
hate to say it but i used to cheat on my wifes with fat ugly woman for one night stands ,
so, what the hell is wrong with me, i dont want to be like this anymore.....there is a new woman in my life and she is absolutely gorgeous but i know this is going to end the same way and im going to get bored.....
spoke to my doctor about this years ago, he told me i have a problem getting emotionally attatched , whatever he meant , i didnt push it or go into great detail but obviously there is some underlying phycological reasoning behind this.

[Peter Pedant]

it doesnt sound like a complicated ssex life
but more of a cack-up ! - - - - ter daah !

I am not meant to take this seriously am I ?

[Sqad]

I must say that i cannot see your problem........having sex with someone different is not uncommon with many men. Going over the same old routine and receiving the same old response is boring.....just damn boring. It may be exciting originally, but if something "different" is not inserted into the equation, then one looks for alternatives and they are out there in abundance.
Not all men require satisfactory and fulfilling sex, but most need that in their lives.....different...fulfilling.....interesting.....exciting.

Fat women ?.........yes.......perhaps......

No, you and you perception of sex, is perfectly normal.

[hc4361]

My take on this:
You have low self esteem and try to boost your ego by marrying beautiful women you neither like nor respect. You have casual sex to convince yourself that you are desirable.
You probably have your own body issues and struggle with your weight, possibly you are or have been grossly overweight.
You use drugs as a crutch, could be alcoholic, as you are unhappy with yourself.
You may have a strained relationship with your mother and feel nothing you can do will please her.
You value money more than personal qualities and deep down believe your wives have only loved you for your money.
You need to get some self respect and confidence in yourself

[emmie]

hc crikey, all that, no wonder he's confused...

[Sqad]

hc......blimey.....you are assuming quite a lot there LOL

[dannyk13]

Get your GP to refer you to a psychologist.

[Sqad]

danny....you are presumably assuming that the OP is abnormal?

[jackthehat]

I hope that you are being 'careful' when entertaining these fat women (who, incidentally, also have feelings and don't deserve to be used as a crutch for your bizarre lifestyle) and given your 'status' the last thing any of those unfortunate women (i.e. having had the misfortune to have slept with you) need is to be carrying a ticking timebomb.

You *are* right in that you need to examing the workings of your mind; your focus on your own body-image coupled with ingestion of chemicals and alcohol is bound to have had a long-term effect on the structure of your brain.

[Sqad]

Drugs and alcohol have been mentioned twice now on this thread and yet i can find no evidence in the OPer's replies.
Have I missed something?

[bednobs]

Yes you have squad!

[dannyk13]

Sqad //danny....you are presumably assuming that the OP is abnormal?//
No, I am not, otherwise I would have suggested a psychiatrist.

[Purist]

I agree with HC and Rowan, I feel this stems from low self esteem. Perhaps the OP has some deep seated issues that he has/will not deal with and is using all of these women as a crutch to make him feel better about himself.

[Zacs-Master]

Is this why you went to Thailand?

[goodgoalie]

......and not exactly the most endearing username, is it?