Boobs/boobjobs?, how do you like them to look?

[Goodsoulette]

Not just a question for men, I am currently breastfeeding my second child we are planning to have a third. At the moment when not so full they are a round an e cup brimming up to probably a ff after a couple of hours of not feeding. When not pregnant or feeding babies I have always been a DD. Of course two children later I am worried about them drooping, should I have a boob job? Anyone else had one after children.

[mimififi]

I''m pondering the same thing. I have breastfed 5 children and subsequently feel really bad about the way I now look. I have lost my pregnancy weight and am about a size 8-10, however, I am now very flat chested. I was only a B cup now I'm probably more like an A cup. It makes me feel awful, I always look dreadful and clothes don't fit as nicely anymore....

I would like to know the same as Goodsoulette. Is there a time limit you should wait before having one done? Do they explode on planes? are they very painful?what do they feel like? How much does it cost?? all the stuff really, do tell, please!

[Dreaming]

Goodsoulette, you've got nothing to worry about. Your boobs sound big enough. I too have breast fed and my boobs have gone to nothing. I used to want breast implants, and it was an obsession at one time, but now I exercise and try and be happy with how I am.

[Lore]

We're all different Goodsoulette.. Mine returned to the origional size (f) .. felt like I had two house bricks on my chest whilst breast feeding but I'm happy to say they haven't gone south and I'm still having problems finding bras to fit!! lol damn things won't go down!!

[NiceCupOfTea]

A friend of mine had a problem with breastfeeding - her little one would only take off one breast with the result that she had one giant boob and one that was her normal size! I have no idea what they're like now he isn't breastfeeding, as she has now had a little girl. I think she is trying to get her to be a bi-boob feeder!

[Morrisonker]

surely in that case she could just use a pump on teh other breast?

I'd say personally that a DD/E cup is as big as I'd want to be, which is what I am now. I am worried about them dropping when I get older, especially after having children but I'll deal with that when the time comes. Is there such a thing as a boob lift? Maybe that would be the way to go, rather than an enlargement/reduction?

[NiceCupOfTea]

Hi Morris - Pumps weren't an option as she was spending enough time feeding him anyway. Please don't be judgemential, she really was trying.

Boob lifts do exist, and are definitely the way to go if you don't want bigger boobs, just boobs back at their normal pre-whatever height.

[Goodsoulette]

I am not talking about getting them any bigger, sorry not made myself clear. I am worried about breast tissue loss, I know lots of women admittedly those that start with smaller breasts who end up with saddle bags instead of wombas.

[rampart]

Well, I do not think mrs rampart would like me sharing this, but I will. She is a bit droopy after having children. As her husband, it does not bother me one bit. She is considering the same thing - a lift, that is, not implants. It makes no difference to me. I love her however she looks, as I hope she does of me. We are going to age, plain and simple, and I hope she and I will love one another no matter our looks. Nevertheless, if she wants it to make herself feel better, I am fine with that. If she does not choose to do so, I certainly accept her as is.

[kick3m0n]

awwww Rampart, aren't you lovely! You sound like my beloved, who doesn't mind at all that I'm a bit more saggy after 16months of breast feeding. I've gone down a size (from B to A) but I'm naturally quite slim anyway, so it's not too bad. Plus, I wee push up padded bra does wonders if I need to fill a dress or top a bit more. He makes me feel sexier than ever, despite the small and saggy boobs, and if I do have moments of yearning for my bigger ones (or even just a more pert pair!), I just tell myself that I traded them in for my son, and that was a bargain! Personnally, my lack of pertness doesn't make me feel so bad that I could put myself through surgery to rectify it. Your boobs go south as you age anyway so it's maybe just happened a wee bit sooner than it would otherwise.

[rampart]

* blushes *

[Goodsoulette]

rampart and kick what lovely lovely answers...

I feel so much happier now.... will still probably fork out for surgery tho

[mimififi]

well. ladies (and rampart), I did a wee bit of searching on the jolly net last night and discovered that boob lifts do certainly exist, and obviously looked into implants too.

I have decided that it certainly isn't for me at all after all that. I have been feeling very down recently re my appearance. I had a very traumatic birth experience at the beginning of this year, which nearly cost me my life and a very stressful infancy with my (now 10 month) baby. After reading all that I read particularly the part about implants not being for life and further surgury normally being required, I decided that the risk of surgury for such a cosmetic purpose wasn't going to be worth it. I can't justify it for vanity; my children nearly lost their mother this year on the operating table, and whereas I'm sure most operations go smoothly, for a non-medical reason, the risk is just too too great.

I have really taken Kick's answer on board, and have to purloin her turn of phrase and say that I too have decided that when I look in the mirror, I won't see what breast feeding has done to me in a negative way again, rather, I will see the evidence that despite some terrible odds, I fought to breastfeed my children and in particular my prem baby, who desperately needed her mother's milk, and thereby gave her the head start she needed.

Thank you for showing me what is important, both Rampart and Kick. When I was ill this year, I know my husband didn't once stop to think about what I looked like, he just wanted to know that I was going to survive. And if he were given the choice again, he would have me here the way I am, than not here trying to change what I have become.

Plus: I'd rather spend the 5 grand on something fun, than on new boobs for me.

Thank you thank you thank you. THis has been better than therapy!

[mimififi]

I think I'll nip down to M&S and get a beautiful little sexy bra that'll do the job just as well.

(Mr Mimififi will probably like that too!!!!! I wonder if they do stocking tops to match???)

[Goodsoulette]

mimififi... glad i posted a question that was a bit of therapy for you too. So soryy to hear about your birth experience my son is 10 weeks old and I was so lucky to have things go so well for me. Give yourself a big pat on the back, and a holiday to the maldives with the surgery money and 100 quid on a designer bikini.

[mimififi]

Hey Goods, An excellent idea, good call!

I'll get Thomas Cook on the blower in the morning.

It has been very therapeutic, thank you again.

[Morrisonker]

NiceCupOfTea - Sorry, didn't mean to sound like that, I'm not being judgemental in the slightest. That just seemed to be the solution to me, but I know diddly squat about breast feeding and stuff :)

[kick3m0n]

mimififi, I am so pleased and touched that my words were of some help to you. I'm getting a wee tad emotional just thinking about your post, especially about your wee premie. You've come through such a lot and have so much to be thankful for, as have your family. Get that wee push up number on and knock mr mimififis socks off!!! xxxx