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So my boyfriend and I have been together over half a year. I've met all his friends and he's met mine. Well, he has this one friend...whose old enough to be our dad. He's nice, your typical over weight, nerdy, but he's one of those done it all, no kids, just got out of a long term relationship, went back to school a couple times, stoner, plays video games, had his share of legal troubles, financially unstable, dealer dudes. He's really nice, but I just am kind of weirded out with their relationship. They've went on trips together (like to the coast or beach in our state of residence) with a couple other friends, they smoke together,partied together, my boyfriend gives him money to get his weed from the dispensary since we are not legally able to do so yet, they've spent the night at eachothers houses (when my boyfriends family was out of town) and my boyfriend does quite a bit for him, they know about each others personal lives, my boyfriend though is discreet, and they shake each other up a lot. Idk why I just get an odd feeling. And with my boyfriend being open to a lot of kind of unethical things, I worry. I know if we weren't together he'd be doing way more. Also, if they were druggies or sold drugs, his older friend would be the one with the hookups, or if there were things he'd wanted or wanted to try, he's his guy. I know usually older friends (like nearly our parents age) like a teacher or god parent, etc is like a mentor. BUT he doesn't consider him a mentor. And he doesn't really do mentor things. I don't try to talk or think about it a lot because it comes off as I don't like, or I'm complaining or he won't care, or he will feel weird that I feel weird etc so I just keep it to myself. I've gotten some advice and some say it's not weird but then when I give a little more details it shifts, and others say (even adults) it is weird that it's that kind of friendship. This is something I've prayed about and even got a sick feeling in my stomach. I've even seen the way he and another one of my boyfriends friends (whom he met online like almost 8 years ago) has talked to my boyfriend, and they're all kind of assholes lol (my boyfriend is kind of one too) so it doesn't phase him, he also has a lot of sobby stories that would make you pity him. Please help.
Is it mainly just the age gap that worries you? If this guy was a similar age to your boyfriend but everything else was the same would you still feel the same way about the relationship
? Reading your post they just seem like good mates to me, but with a large age gap.
07:14 Thu 13th Apr 2017