Aaarrrgggghhh ..... He's driving me up the wall

[Traci66]

Honest, I know he's depressed, as per Easter weekend, but it's like living with a menopausal woman or hormonal teenager, the mood swings, one minute up, the next down, the self pity, the anger, the tears. I feel like I'm constantly walking on egg shells, hope the doctor gives him something tomorrow and the stupid questionnaire he had to fill in. Sorry rant over, thanks for listening.

[albaqwerty]

awww my sweet {hugs} they do that. I've toughened up to mine. I now walk on hard boiled eggs

[VHG]

From reading your other questions it seems what is going on inside his head is far worse than what you are going through.

Can you imagine how bad you must feel about life to want to kill yourself?

I realise he may not be easy to live with, but how would you feel if he did actually kill himself.

If you came through the front door and found his dead body on the floor.

Depression and mental illness are very complex subjects and he needs lots of help and support to get through it.

[dustypuss]

http://www.cartoonsto...e/lowres/bven343l.jpg

[andy-hughes]

U utterly sympathise.

Depressive behaviour is - I understand - like being drunk, I'm tee-total, so have no basis for comparison but -

you behave really badly, and you are aware that you are behainv badly, but you do it anyway, because something inside insists that you do.

That does not condone such behaviour, or make it one iota easier to live with, but it may help to explain that your husband / parther (?) is probably aware of the impact he is having, but powerless to resist the impluses that make him act that way.

The essence of depression is self-hatred, and part of that is working quite hard to make sure that your loved ones have a go at hating you as much as you hate yourself.

[tinkerbell23]

Hope the doc helps too- are you going with him?

Youve had a time of it Traci you really have. You need a holiday xxxx

[hc4361]

VHG is right, but mental illness is very hard to cope with for the nearest and dearest of the sufferer.
Make sure you get regular time away from him, if possible, even if it's just having a long, relaxing bath with a good book.

If people are offering any kind of support, such as keeping him company for an hour two, take it.

Good luck to you both.

[Arksided]

Dusty, if I had a side parting like the one in your link, I'd be depressed too.

[Traci66]

VHG. I know he needs my love and support and he has got that 110%, I know he is going through an awful time and that is why I had my little tantrum here and not at him. Thank you all for your kind words and dusty puss lol.

[gness]

Traci. I hope you are getting support as well as being able to let off some steam here. If you go under it won`t help him. Are you going with him to the doctor and has he filled in the form honestly? I think it is to give the G.P. an indication of how severe the depression is. If you have to, see the doctor on your own to make sure he/she is aware of everything.xx

[Traci66]

Gneiss, I made sure he filled the form in truthfully, explained to him why I thought some of the answers he had put were wrong and I am seeing the doctor just before he is.

[gness]

Good Luck. Hope you get some real help.xxx

[Traci66]

Well he has been given citalopram 20mg once daily, back to docs in two weeks and she wants him to start seeing someone from 'living life to the full', but not just yet she said. Hopefully we can turn the corner.

[andy-hughes]

Traci66 - be aware that the citalopram will take about two to three weeks to fully absorb and act in his system, so symptoms will persist, but hopefully start to improve.

It is absolutely essential that you monitor his intake and that he takes them at the same time daily - he just won't remember if he has had his tablet(s) or not. If he misses one, don't double up, just resume the next day, and allow for the 'bump' in his mood for a couple of days until things regulate again.

[Traci66]

Thanks Andy, I am monitoring his intake of all his medication now, I have it all locked in the safe and have changed the code. We know it is going to be a long hard slog, but at least this time he has agreed to take medication and get counselling, so there is hope.

[andy-hughes]

Great news Traci - sounds like you may be on the path to recovery, which, never forget is possible.

i speak from experience after a catastrophic breakdown twenty-plus years ago which left me hosiptalised for three months and off work for a year.

i got back - and here i am to tell the tale, so hang on and take each day at a time. Enjoy the good days, endure the bad ones, and wait for the time when good outweighs bad - which is coming.