moving in with someone?

[iloveyuu]

hey im tash, im a bit stuck at to what to do because im nearly 16 and my boyfriend is 19 we really love being together and hope to move out this year but im not sure if im too young or not help! x

[redcrx]

forgetting love and age.
can you afford to?
love doesnt pay the bills

[pips1]

If you are nearly 16 then you are in fact 15, which I would say is way too young. Have fun while you can, why tie yourself to one person and a load of bills. You are only young once and what you want now could be completely different from what you may want in 12 months time.

[CAJ1]

If you have to ask if its the right thing to do then maybe you're not ready for such a big step. Have you talked things through such as how you will afford rent, food, electric, heating bills etc? It can be hard to take on all this responsibility at your age and if I were you I would maybe stay where you are, get some savings behind you and make the most of having your mum about to do all the housework for you!

[iloveyuu]

hey redcrx well my bfs getting a job in an enviromental agency and i have been offered a full time nursery nurse job so ye i think we can bt we somtimes argue so im woried well argue more wb x

[Velvetee]

Don't rush to grow up. You are still very young and as you get older, may find you change and no longer want the same things as you do now.

Enjoy spending time with your boyfriend, but concentrate on making a good life for yourself, learn new things, have a career. Do you really need the responsibility of paying costly rent and bills at such a young age?

[GYMRAT]

yes your too young and a 19 man year oldm man with a 15 year old girl? if i was your dad that 19 year old nonce would've mysteriously disapeared over night.

[iloveyuu]

hey ye we have talked about it all and were confident we can afford it the fact that i wont be at home nemore ! and we want to move about an hour away from where we live. i have said to my bf mayb im a bit young n he just said ell be fine ?

[redcrx]

if neither of you have jobs yet id wait and see what sort of money you have coming in before assuming that youll be able to afford to rent a place.

Wait a year or two, save up.

[redcrx]

so what do you reckon itd cost for you to have your own place?

renting youll need 2 or 3 months up front for a start

[HJT40]

Ok, it would be easy for me to tell you that you are too young, but only you know how you feel about your boyfriend and how he feels about you.

A lot of people love being with someone, but that it very different that living with them all the time, which involves washing, ironing, cooking, cleaning and other such chores along with paying bills. These are all things you must think about and you have probably seen your parents doing when you have been ready to go out and have fun, and if you are not earning much if you do move in then you will be limited as to where you live and what your social life will be like.

If you are not sure yourself then I would say think about it again in 3 months or 6 months or even a year. In the meantime enjoy being together , but enjoy missing each other and the catching up that goes with it. Don't be in a rush to be too responsible. The fun you can have at your age is endless and you should be enjoying yourself. Don't be in a hurry to grow up.

Personally, if I were your age again, I would be having the time of my life and taking in all that life has to offer. Its a hell of a lot better than ironing.

[iloveyuu]

an cn i jus say to you **** off i dont care what you think of our age gap ! my arents didnt aprove to start with no but were good for eachother if you have nothing nice to say please dont reply to my questions!

[B00]

lmao- gotta love kids eh?

Save your breath folks, as no matter how many times you tell them something is a very bad idea, they'll argue their cause and go ahead and do it anyway.

Seems this one's no different.

[CAJ1]

You sound like you have doubts and aren't 100% sure about doing this. Stay put and just see each other. There is loads of time in the world to do all these things.

[iloveyuu]

thanx for that really long answer lol

ye i have thought it all through he stays at my house 3 times a week and welike doing that and i feel im ready to do all the chores and everything wb x

[Velvetee]

The fact you have said to your boyfriend that maybe you are too young, means that is what you believe. The fact he is telling you, you'll be alright, suggests he's the one in control of your relationship and isn't taking into consideration how you feel!

I also see your point Gymrat. Although I'm sure the poster of this question feels she is grown up already, legally at 15, she is still a minor, so there is an issue of what is a 19 year old man, doing with a 15 year old, but I guess it's the time we live in.

[iloveyuu]

to boo wtf tht name all about to start with and your obv like 60 or something so just leave ye ! i dont give a **** wht yu think darling im more intersted in the people tht are takin an intrest thanx bye!

[redcrx]

why are you asking us if youve decided on this anyway?

what have your parents said?

i think many of us dreamt of having our own place at your age, it seems like fun and exciting. Its not the same in reality though

[GYMRAT]

well boo,lets just hope that she does'nt end up lumbered with 4 kids,a boyfriend that just smokes weed,drinks and cheats and then ends up on jeremy kyle saying ''oh how i wished i listened to those good folks on answerbank!''

[redcrx]

pmsl.
shes gots you sussed b00 :)