To refresh your memory...

[merciasounds]

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Well see now the thing is, she's phoned me 4 times since sunday - I've been able to screen her calls as my land line phone shows caller ID - she drains me at the best of times, but at the moment I'm really not well enough to cope with her - she was crying the last time she phoned, something about her latest conquest leaving her with thirty thousand pounds worth of debt. I could see it coming a mile off but bit my tongue because i knew she wouldn't listen. Am I being mean not answerig her call - she wants to come a stay for a few days and 'lick her wounds' -what shall i do - tell her i'm ill or just continue to screen till Wednesday when I really will be away

[merciasounds]

sorry I could have sworn I put this in 'family' again

[Mick-Talbot]

You are obviously not her friend, so tell her to get lost.

[Euphemia]

Tell her you are ill and on the point of leaving.

[cazzz1975]

talk to her, but dont say you told her so, no one wants to hear that. just be supportive and give her a shoulder to cry on.

[mrsmaveric]

sounds like she needs a shoulder to cry on mercia..just politley explain that you are not well yourself and can you catch up with her when you return..you never know you might just need HER shoulder to cry on 1 day..good luck..

[Mick-Talbot]

hang on, if you have ignored her calls, how do you know she wants to come and stay for a few days?

[redcrx]

you need to decide if you are friends or not really. You wanted to tell her what you thought of that fella before so i presume she is a friend.
but youre going away wednesday arent you? just talk to her on your return

[merciasounds]

I'm really not sure - I can't count the number of times I've rubbed her back, let her cry it out, drink lots of booze (far more than is good for her) only for her to leave with a great resolve to move on, then in the next breath on the phone she's telling me she's going to 'give the guy one more chance' or to take up with somebody identical only for the same thing to happen again. I could feel my temper rising at christmas - she's 53 year old woman for goodness sake - you'd think she'd learn by her mistakes, or have a bit of common sense

[merciasounds]

she left messages on the ansaphone mick -

[funnygirl]

She is draining you mercia.
I would gently ease her out of your life.

[Bobbisox]

Mercia , gently explain to her that at this moment in time you can not take on any emotional stress and also say you have been there for her and you will be again, when you feel stronger
Good luck

[supersuezy24]

Just be straight out with her and explain what you think to her..

[redcrx]

so just avoid her then. go to your dads house and forget about it all.

[Mick-Talbot]

get her running your errands, whilst you are poorly.

[Bobbisox]

Mick, you're all heart ,<wink>

[joeluke]

MT, you (and certain others) always seem to be on mercia's case, give her a break?

[cazzz1975]

if you are too emotionally fragile then just avoid her, its not worth making yourself ill over.

[Mick-Talbot]

botox....... I hardly ever contribute on mercias threads , Joe. So shove that wooden spoon right up your arse. XXX

[joeluke]

MT

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