Dignity In Dying Christmas Cards...

[sandyRoe]

I've just got a letter from this organisation, which I think is a worthy one, offering Christmas cards. Am I alone in thinking that the Christmas card road isn't one they should go down in pursuit of funds?

[dannyk13]

Hardly a subject for a time of rejoicing.

[wolf63]

Perhaps not since it is 'supposed' to be a cheerful time.

But we need to start talking about dying and death and to try and understand suicide and the road that people have taken that have led them to suicide.

I read that something like 20% of people with Bipolar disorder kill themselves - an illness that effects/affects my family. This is scary.

[Baldric]

No, agree 100%

[janbee]

I always buy charity Christmas cards but don't now if I would buy from this charity. Don't know why really, they all need the money I suppose.

[jomifl]

Perhaps Easter would be more appropriate and strangely poignant since 'our lord gave his only begotten son' etc. Slight lapse there...scrub everything after 'poignant'

[Baldric]

We use RNLI cards at Christmas, have done for years

[woofgang]

I suppose its worth a try. People don't have to buy them.

[jomifl]

I usually given to charities to help people live.

[dannyk13]

But what the people receiving them think?

[Peter Pedant]

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and dont forget to give to charity thro Gift Aid folks !
very tax efficient.
The more tax you pay the more you can divert to the charity of your choice.

Death is s funny thing
I offered to tell the retired professionals how to give to charity ( well us - a professional organisation ) in their wills equally or more tax efficiently

and was told not to, for all the reasons above

I think it may be different if you have had a serious disease
the threat of the tax man taking your hard earned money seems more ....... imminent

[woofgang]

Its like any other charity card you wouldn't send them to people who might not appreciate them.

[dannyk13]

@woofgang. Would you send one to someone you knew was dying?

[sandyRoe]

When you think of Oxfam cards you'd hardly think of famine. I just thought those particular cards might cast a cloud on the occasion.
As Janbee said, they all need money.

[gness]

Oh I don't know, Sandy...... if I thought it could help to bring about a more dignified death than the two I have witnessed......x

[grandpajoe]

No agree 100% Strange answer that mate!! Anyway I have just been discussing this very subject with a mate not 5 mins ago. We have a mutual friend who had Parkinsons and Dimentia which were diagnosed about 5 years ago. For the past 2 years his (and more importantly,his wile's) life has been awful. He passed away last night and one has to say to the relief of all those who loved and cared for him. A mere shell of a man and for some time they could not feed him. Why would the N H S want to keep alive a person in such a mess. Fortunately he was pain free for the last couple of days.

I could NOT imagine the trauma it would cause to send his widow a Christmas card with such a subject on it. She agreed that there should have been some dignity for her hubby but there was none.

Definitely NO

[MargoTester]

I agree with Danny in that Christmas can be a bad time for people who have lost loved ones and this might make it even worse. Having said that I think it is a good charity.

[wolf63]

Oxfam's cards are really really nice ~ buy loads please.

W☺lf
Oxfam volunteer ;-)

[Peter Pedant]

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Would you send one to someone you knew was dying?

Having been in that position - the suitability of a christmas card is pretty low on the list of things to think about

Taken to ITU and the nurses insisted on ringing my brother at 5 am.
If you insist on ringing him then ring him
O not we must get your permission !
I didnt feel that bad - but my brother fainted when he came into the room. At least he knew it was me

and during all this, I have to say suitability of christmas cards was not preying on my mind

[boxtops]

There's no harm in offering them for sale - I wouldn't personally buy them, but perhaps people whose loved ones have benefited from that organisation might want to.

[woofgang]

If i thought it would comfort the recipient that I had supported the charity then yes I would send the card.