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Thank you mazie that is something I will think about now. I have never been a neighbour who pops in on anyone or even thought about inviting anyone, but if I thought it would help I would do that. She stays calm which amazes me and she was anxious for us to meet her children yesterday when we talked, but it was late, and after MrA's 'chat' with her partner we thought it woud be embarrassing.
Mamya that is something she mentioned, certain sounds and of course the night/darkness, he is 2 yrs 5months old so I suppose she is having to learn more about him as he grows older.