Bullying

[DJHawkes]

I guess the memories of being bullied as a kid never leave. when I was 11/12 there was a girl in the 5th form that lived not far from us and for some reason she started calling me names in school if she saw me. it's quite hazy now but before she left school there was a bad few weeks where it got very nasty for me, though I can only remember vague stuff.

well yesterday I spotted her on a Facebook group I use that is linked to my school and to be honest it was really odd to see her face, now in her 60s and read her so sweet and friendly comments, all I wanted to do was add a post telling everyone what a vile nasty bully she was in her youth! but I didn't. it,s upset me though, she looks so smug and pleasant,

[Canary42]

*form*

[bednobs]

if you are all right, and this person is truly a horrible person who still takes glee in making people's lives miserable, she will be totally gleeful that she is atill affecting you 50 years later, and confirming this too her will just make her laugh an evil laugh that the plan she put in place years ago is still working.
However, i could be right, and she probably wont even remember

[weecalf]

Never been bullied but if my kids or grand kids were .I would not be pleased .Actually those who bully have a reason I think .They have little in their live so this is there revenge .They could well have got more into their lives and now feel and act different .So Id give them the benefit of the doubt .Why let them win again but making you hateful or angry Ignore them ..

[Scarlett]

The two girls who were bullies in my school had problems at home I think. Not that that is an excuse, as didn;t we all? But one was the first person in the town to have parents who divorced. It was rare in the 70s. The other had a fixation with the army and that's what she did when she left. Just wanted a gun. I think!! If either did appear on Faceboook I would definitely sent them a message. Bullying does stay with you forever, and if it can help you get some sort of closure (as I wrote before) then you deserve that. So it may hurt their feelings- who gives a toss?!

[Terrier77]

I wouldn't mind if people came up and said I'm sorry for what I put you through, it was wrong. Trouble is they seem to act completely normally as if they've always been your best mate. Perhaps that's just it, they're superficial and not able to accept or acknowledge the pain and suffering they've caused others in their life, part and parcel of their nature.

[bednobs]

or perhaps after 50 years, they don't remember

[society]

Quite right Dotty, it's something one never forget.

[seadogg]

I am sure there are people who are innately nasty but in my experience bullying arises from putting individuals into confined groups. The bully is unable to establish a leadership role on grounds of merit and tries to obtain it by the evil practice of bullying. This might account for the bully not feeling guilty on meeting the victim in different circumstances later on.

[askyourgran]

You never forget the bully who made your life miserable for years. I still remember, I hate her and I still wouldn't trust her to be friendly with me after all these years.

[paddywak]

I was the target of a group of lads for about six months at a new school.It carried on till I caught the ring leader by himself out of school, gave him a right pasting and finished it off by telling him if I had any more problems from ANYBODY and I'd come looking for him.It cost me six strokes of the cane for bringing the school into disrepute by brawling in public but it was worth it, and yes you never forget.I still see the *** every now and then and the memory of his nose breaking always makes me smile.