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A hitting child!!
Can anyone tell me if their child still hits.
My son will turn 3yrs old in November and he will hit out whether he is playing or he is annoyed. Even last night when I put him back to his bed at 2.30am he lashed out at me, hitting me in the eye. He will play kick too when Im getting him undressed especially if I have him lying on the bed!
Ive tried to do all the “no its naughty to hit” and even pretended to be hurt (and cry) but to no avail. The funny thing is that when he randomly hits on other occasions he apologises straight away!
Any hints or tips to get this to stop … or shall I let it run with age?
My son will turn 3yrs old in November and he will hit out whether he is playing or he is annoyed. Even last night when I put him back to his bed at 2.30am he lashed out at me, hitting me in the eye. He will play kick too when Im getting him undressed especially if I have him lying on the bed!
Ive tried to do all the “no its naughty to hit” and even pretended to be hurt (and cry) but to no avail. The funny thing is that when he randomly hits on other occasions he apologises straight away!
Any hints or tips to get this to stop … or shall I let it run with age?
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My grand daughter did exactly the same thing and my daughter was often reduced to tears, taking it very personally. Eventually, a child psychologist came to the house to observe them. (Of course, the little darling, as usually, behaved impeccably with others around!) In the end, the adviser said she was to put the child on the naughty step if, if necessary, hold her down on it, even if the child kicked and screamed. She wasn't to say anything or to look at her. This only needed to be for 1 or 2 minutes each time; children have no concept of time. It was extremely hard to do this, partly because the little darling was strong and partly because she didn't like being unkind to her! It was easier when her partner was there to help. Children hate being excluded from the attention and having her mummy turning her head away from her from that brief amount of time upset her. Sometimes, she had to return to the step almost immediately after being allowed to leave it but, with perseverance, it worked. Of course, there are now new problems; there always will be as she tests the boundaries but being calm but strong now really pays off in the end. Good luck!
I'm not a perfect parent, I know what to do to get the message through but sometimes I just can't be bothered. Other kids, work, house, dog we can't always be brilliant. Generally they get a good sense of what is right and wrong ( I didnt have the naughty step, i got a rollocking), just because you dont use the naughty step and stick to it every time isn't gonna be your childs downfall (life gets in the way).
My youngest ( as i seem to have mentioned tonight) is a nightmare at times but often only around me, and yes sometimes this can just be for attention that he wants probably deserves but I can't give. He was a smacker, sometimes his brother, often me, never other children unless hit first believe it or not. However, hes nearly 5 and he grew out of it. The more they can communicate and at 3 it's not always easy for them (unless you have the perfect can walk for miles and miles and don't need a buggy children), the less frustrated they feel and less likely they seem to be to hit out.
My youngest ( as i seem to have mentioned tonight) is a nightmare at times but often only around me, and yes sometimes this can just be for attention that he wants probably deserves but I can't give. He was a smacker, sometimes his brother, often me, never other children unless hit first believe it or not. However, hes nearly 5 and he grew out of it. The more they can communicate and at 3 it's not always easy for them (unless you have the perfect can walk for miles and miles and don't need a buggy children), the less frustrated they feel and less likely they seem to be to hit out.
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When my 2 where naughty and took absolutely no notice of what I said I just ignored them completely. I didn't speak or acknowledge them. in any way. They hated this, and after a while they calmed down and just wanted me to talk to them. Children generally play up for attention but when they don't get it they realise that it doesn't work.
LOL just a bit but honestly not meant nastily, I used a buggy with evan for over 3 years, but with John for just 13 months, yet Evans started walking at 7 months, School was 1.9 miles away, had to walk their and back 3 times a day! Thats a shocking distance for a toddler to cover by foot. Not everyone chooses to drive.He could manage one of those trips there and back, or walk there buggy back. An absolute necessity for the none driving mothers back.
Well theres some interesting replies there and some off the "subject" conversations going on. Why is it that certain people use this site for general help and advice and alot of the time all they get back from "idiots" (LoftyLottie) is sarcastic stupid remarks!! ADVICE = a recommendation offered as a guide to action, conduct, etc.
Many thanks for those who have give me stuff to ponder over. My son is not as others seem to make him out. He has the odd spat of anger (like most children), hits/kicks out every blue moon whether in play or not, etc etc. He is my first child and along with him, I am still learning!
Many thanks for those who have give me stuff to ponder over. My son is not as others seem to make him out. He has the odd spat of anger (like most children), hits/kicks out every blue moon whether in play or not, etc etc. He is my first child and along with him, I am still learning!
