It'll be any routines you had that might be your downfall - if there was a certain time of day or day of the week when you'd see each other or be in touch. Make a point of finding other things to do at those times - get yourself new routines and they'll take over from the old. You have done the right thing and it's probably been very hard for you to do it. It's easy for people on here to sit in judgement and say you shouldn't have been with someone who had a partner, but you can't control who you fall for and sometimes it's not easy to stay out of that person's way, especially if you live in a small town. You're also human, and some flattery and interest can make you feel good. He obviously sensed that and maybe that you were vulnerable and he's taken advantage and used you, only to let you take all the flack for it. It may well be an idea to move on and make a fresh start elsewhere, but if you can't then at least be strong and stay away from him, don't let him sweet talk you back into bed cos he's only using you and you deserve so much more than that. Good luck Cindylou x