Shame about my job

[karma22]

Handed in my notice. Reasons I am leaving are: -

a) feel like girl talks about her baby on purpose to hurt me (after I had abortion that she knows about)

b) not much of a social life (only a few of us in the office

c) feel like I can't change and be more confident and assertive now as I have been the opposite for the past 4 years.

I just wanted to say that if I had been totally open and honest from the start, not pretended that I was over abortion then things could have been different. Also think that they would not like it if I changed and become more confident and assertive but in reality this is probs just in my head.

Could have got training here to be a mortgage adviser and I have been lucky that I have been allowed to leave at 4 and still get paid til 5.

Lesson well and truly learned!!!

[karma22]

Just want to say to people who might be afraid to be themselves, be assertive, be totally honest with people etc, don't be, always start as you mean to go on, be totally open and honest about your feelings, don't try to cover them up and pretend you're ok when you're not, don't be afraid to stick up for yourself. BE YOURSELF, BE HONEST AND BE ASSERTIVE! That applies to work, relationships including bf's and friends in general, lots of aspects of life actually.

Start as you mean to go on cus look what a pickle you can get into else!

:-)

[cazzz1975]

whilst your being open and honest try to put things in perspective and allow others to talk about their children without getting upset. try not to create a situation where people have to tip toe around you otherwise you will create a wall again.

[eyeshade]

K, suggest you do have some counselling re your termination as Sara suggests, you would be surprised how long these things can eat away at you. I had a termination at the age of 15, I am 53 now and have many regrets etc as well as spiritual thoughts on the matter. I feel for you but you have lots of counselling people these days which I didn't, make the most of them. Good Luck.