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kitesurfer | 17:14 Sat 24th Jan 2009 | Relationships & Dating
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well my girlfriend has told her family about bieng pregnant and they took it really badly. they made her feel really bad about herself with comments like
'so u just want to take care of babies your whole life'
'what was all the money spent on your education for'

To me they sound like not very nice people. she has hepetitis B and they know about this. her life is more likely to be more premature than the average person so surely they should be happy?

I am starting to think they are arrogant. what should i say to my girlfriend to make her feel better?
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i have very patiently answered your questions, giving you information etc. However, when i see the vile you spout on other posts and the unbelievably moronic postings you make, it makes me less inclined to help you in the future. hwever, i assume you want me to bite

if indeed your posts were true, i would say this: her parents have a point. Why waste her life with someone the other side of the world, with a tiny brain moronic enough not to know that if you have unprotected sex you can get pregnant, not to have considered the consequence an illness can bring into the equation? someone who seeming dosent have any real human friends to talk abou this with? what did they spend money on her education for if all she is going to do is produce sprogs that have half your dna, so will likely be at least 1/2 moronic?
Why dont you tell her her life is "more likely to be more premature than the average person" and tell her you've been discussing her personal life with a bunch of randm strangers? that should cheer her up!

i presume this is what you want? people to "bite" perhaps you have already laid bets with yourself over how long it will take for someone to spout?
Hope i've satisfied you!
bednobs LOL LOL...bravo.
It's a shame really, kiteaurfer is a good looking guy and he's really a nice person when he wants to be, but it doesn't seem to happen very often :(
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bednobs you are calling me a not nice person? wow. wow wow wow wow wow wow. with the nature of this thread i cant believe you made it your opportunity to have a go at me.
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i do agree with the moron part though. you got top stars you truly nice person. I just hope you treat your family with better understanding.
where are my stars then?
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bed you just sink lower and lower in your intelligent bad nature.
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hold on, how come every1 is havin a go at you??
it depends on how old your girlf is though as to why her family took it that way. just because shes pregnant doesnt mean shes dumb so she cant get a job.
If I was her mother, I would be very uspet and disappointed too. I don't know much about this girlfriend of yours, but she comes across as being very subservient and led by what you want.

From when you first joined Answerbank a few months back, it seemed you'd only recently begun a relationship with this girl and your main gripe was that she may have been lying to you about being a virgin. It seemed very important to you that she was a virgin.

You come across as being very controlling, perhaps I am wrong, but this is how most of your posts appear. If your relationship was so new and you were so unsure of her honesty, it seems incredibly irresponsible to impregnate her, especially when she has Hep B.

Your girlfriend sounds like she has no identity of her own and very young mentally for her age. I'm not sure why you thought her family would be elated to hear she was pregnant from a man, they possibly know little about and who lives in another country. You need to get real and understand the points of view of others.
bringing up a child is a very hard, tiring job, it is not about you its about the baby, it requires a huge degree of maturity selflessness and patience. If your gf becomes ill she will be relying on you to be there, do a lot of the work.

you will lose your social life, your life will seem chaotic until you get used to your new existance. maybe her family are worried because they do not see the qualities needed in you and think that you will probably jump ship when the going gets tough.

parenting is the hardest job there is, its a 24/7 job that does not go away.

I would agree Cazz and from what I've read of his posts, he doesn't seem to be taking the situation seriously. It will be a very difficult time for the girlfriend and arrogance will not improve or help the situation.
can i just ask how this girlfriend got hep b as i only knew vaguely through work the ins and outs but most hep b cases make a full recovery and others seem to be treatable, the most fatal risk being with chronic hep b ie permanent liver damage and liver cancer.
also would you not be concerned at your own risk of becoming infected as there is a risk of passing through unprotected sex so forgive me if im mistaken but unless it was the immaculate conception you did have unprotecte sex or she would not be pregnant so therefore you could also now have hep b? something to ponder over eh?
guys he just want a reaction from you guys, obviously its working.

anyway gravitate.. you keep on and on about her with Hep B, and you dont use protection.. she could have caught all sorts off you. anyway ... have you ever considered about what you have done to her? its you that created this mess.

did you both actually wanted to start a family dispite knowing her for a few months??...... or you just wanted to ruin someone elses life. you ever considered what life will be like for your child? he/she will suffer.
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naflharisson she got it at birth. we are still waiting for results. all we know is that it is active.


whitebear u havent been in any relationships so your views are irrelevant.

cazz the parents have never met me and its a shame on you trying to patronise me. my values for life far exceed yours so leave me alone.
really, thus far your life values seem to revolve around trying to wind people up and snooping on your girlfriend
Youre the parent and even you questioned whether to go ahead with the pregnancy. Of course her own parents are going to be concerned and disappointed.

How come her wonderful education has only got her in a job with chinese people who wont understand the issues facing a pregnant empoyee? Doesnt sound as if her education has got her very far so far.

This girl has known you all of 2 minutes, you get her pregnant, of course her parents are going to be annoyed, they havnt even met you and its probably come as a huge shock to them.
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velvetee i didnt join ab 2 months ago it has been over 2 years.

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