18 and Pregnant, How Do I Tell My Dad My Only Parent.

[Trixy_89]

I'm 18 and pregnant, in a stable relationship and my boyfriend wants to keep the baby, i'm too scared to have an abortion but i'm too scared to keep the baby cause my dad always used to say to me '' my worst nightmare is for you to be pregnant ''. I only live with my dad, my boyfriend believes his parents wouldn't be too pleased at first but would get used to it. With my dad, i'm not so sure and the only other family i have is my Grandma and Grandad and i know they'd be disappointed too. I'm more for keeping the baby and i've thought about everything there is to think about, financial matters and housing included and i still think theres alot to think about. I know this is my own fault and i'm not looking for sympathy just some motherly advice.

Thank you. x

[hippyhoppy]

I concur with Katie re Ravens negative comments - It need not come to that if Trixy has integrity, which I hope she has in spades...

[randyraven]

Just read the stats.

I stand to be corrected then. The majority of 18 year old , single parents are are not on benefits then ?

[Trixy_89]

Thanks to all but one, Raven. I dont intend to claim anything unless its rightfully mine. And ' if ' i keep this baby which there is a very high chance i will i just need abit more time to settle myself, then i shall work damn hard until i have to leave work and like i mentioned early, the relationship i'm in is very much stable and i have FULL support from the babys father and he also will be working none stop to pay for this baby not to mention all the love and affection the child will have. I do not take kindly to digs as i came here for advice not snide remarks from someone who doesn't know me. I dont come from a posh background but i am not a money grabbing teen who claims off the counsil left right and centre.
Like i said, thanks to those who have actually gave advice.

Laura x

[naflharrison]

please please do what is best for you, dont think bout ur father or boyfriend it you who chooses what you want. i went thru this with my sister last year she was 18 pregnant and her boyfriend and his parent and our dad told her to abort and that they would pay for it. this went on for 3 mths and my sister could never stand up and say no i want this baby as she was to affraid. thankfully she held on until abortion was not an option and told them she WANTED her baby and now i have a beautiful 4mth old neice who is unbelievably loved by both sides of grandparents. ur dad might go nuts at first but when he holds his gorgeous grandchild he will melt. its just fear that makes them angry.
if you do have your baby tho please dont think its easy, its alot of hard work but if you focus and concentrate on loving your baby you will be a great mum. good luck x

[alisonscott]

well have you told him ?
what was the outcome ?