What advice would you give?

[haysi06]

To a friend whom asks you for an honest opinion about someone that they are close to but you cant stand and know that they will make a decision based on your answer? Would you decline to comment, even if pushed?

[Vicodin66]

Well... they are asking you for an 'honest' opinion... if you are good friends they should be able to accept your view without any ill feeling if it is not what they really wanted/expected to hear... they should be able to 'accept' it as your opinion... they may not necessarily 'agree' with it though...

[~max~]

I'd tell them the truth, ie I don't like that person, but add that given this, I can't be impartial in any advice I'd give so they'd be better off asking someone who can give an unbiased answer.

[Beetledewz]

Difficult. It's hard not to lay into someone if you feel that way. I'm sure of course that you'll make a fairly judged decision Haysi

Perhaps it's wiser not to comment. Then if they resume their friendship, you're not placed in an awkward situation.

[thumbalina]

Difficult but all you can do is be honest and give your opinion, i dont think they would necessarily base their decision on your answer when they know how you feel about the person x

[haysi06]

Thank you for your answers, I have made it pretty clear in the past how I feel about her 'friend' and to be honest I wish that she hadnt asked me, however I know that she does value my opinion. At the end of the day its her decision and I think that she knows that he is a waste of space and does not deserve her. Perhaps I should encourage her to resume her friendship with him cos at the end of the day she is going to find out what a lowlife he is and then I will come out smelling of roses. :)

[Beetledewz]

As opposed to wet puppy?

[haysi06]

The puppy pished herself LOL

[toby99]

I would take care it could end up back firing on you!

[haysi06]

toby99 you are absolutely right! I want to stay out of it and so will do. I will be tactful. as always.

[annie0000]

By declining to comment, you are giving an opinion anyway - honesty is the best policy - you don't necessarily have to like the same people anyway. I don't like quite a few of my other friends friends if you get what I mean, but they are their friends not mine.

[Ice.Maiden]

Was going to say what max's just said.

[haysi06]

I told my friend that she already knew my opinion of him and that nothing he had done recently had changed my mind about him in any way. I know she is looking for support for me and for me to say that she has a future with him but right now she is left waiting by the phone for him to call or text (he doesnt live here) but I just couldnt do it.

Thanks everyone for your input.

Hxx